My social anxiety: The following

[espio100]

My talking about my social anxiety thread #435
As most if you know I have a very bad case of social anxiety. I try to stay away from social activity every way I can. But that has changed. Since I transfered to a new school everything has been going allot better and my social fear has imroved by allot. I even want the weekends to be over asap so I can talk to my friends again. Ive been able to make small talk with the barber, Start conversations with random people and whatsnot.
I still think people talk stuff about me tough wich is very annoying. I keep saying its just in my head but I cant supress it that wel other than ignoring it.
So yeah I got that going for me. Grades are improving too, motivation is skyrockting and my self esteem is slowly raising (its still rock bottom tough).
I do get kind of depressed during vacations because than I get bored af and want to meet up with friend but theyre usually doing other stuff wich my social anxiety translates to that they dont want to be arround me. This is probably the last topic I will make about my mental issues. Thanks everyone who helped me, you helped trough allot.
So at the end, everything went better than expected. Dont kill yourself just yet, kiddo's.

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[SimpleFish]

I knew u could do it champ, good job.

[Frequency]

I still think people talk stuff about me tough wich is very annoying. I keep saying its just in my head but I cant supress it that wel other than ignoring it.

you could probably deal with that by just embracing the idea

but that's real cool, i'm happy 4 u

[espio100]

<3

[Clownfish]

good work esipo

[Perry]

now shoot it up

[Nickelob Ultra]

Congratulations OP!  Your situation sounds almost identical to what I had gone through between middle school to high school.  I would suggest trying to see if you can seek help for your anxiety though, because that lingering questioning of your friends is still an anxiety (it's entirely normal that it's a lot less now though; you've made great friends and actively socialize a lot more now which is very helpful).  In fact I strongly recommend you seek professional help for it, to help take control of your anxiety and shut it up for good.  Having your anxiety muzzled and silent is a great feeling.

[hillkill]

i want to say that social anxiety is nonexistent, but i know people who are seriously forgeted up by this.

as i've told you before do NOT tell yourself that you have social anxiety. you are setting yourself up for excuses and your mind will follow to conform to it.

you're at a new school. you have a great opportunity to leave that stuff behind. no one knows that are like that, so don't act like it. stand up straight when spoken to, don't mumble, etc. Look confident, be confident in what you do and people will like you for that.

[Nickelob Ultra]

i want to say that social anxiety is nonexistent, but i know people who are seriously forgeted up by this.

as i've told you before do NOT tell yourself that you have social anxiety. you are setting yourself up for excuses and your mind will follow to conform to it.

you're at a new school. you have a great opportunity to leave that stuff behind. no one knows that are like that, so don't act like it. stand up straight when spoken to, don't mumble, etc. Look confident, be confident in what you do and people will like you for that.

While I absolutely encourage seizing the day like this, it's easier said than done in some cases.  I wouldn't try completely ignoring social anxiety as repressing it can do more harm than good, but I've found that personifying it and making it seem more like something that isn't a part of you or your mind and is more of an enemy in your way can make it easier to recognize it and isolate it from your real true thoughts.  Any instance of anxiety or depression I feel, I instantly characterize it as something that isn't "my mind" and is actually a chemical imbalance in the brain causing this short circuit (and in that, knowing that these thoughts aren't truly my own self thinking these).

[espio100]

Congratulations OP!  Your situation sounds almost identical to what I had gone through between middle school to high school.  I would suggest trying to see if you can seek help for your anxiety though, because that lingering questioning of your friends is still an anxiety (it's entirely normal that it's a lot less now though; you've made great friends and actively socialize a lot more now which is very helpful).  In fact I strongly recommend you seek professional help for it, to help take control of your anxiety and shut it up for good.  Having your anxiety muzzled and silent is a great feeling.

I dont really want to bother my parents with my mental problems and let them pay 50 euros for someone so they can talk to me for an hour.
Actually one of my friends also has symptoms of SAD and we can kinda relate. Too bad we cant get allong too well and we dont really talk to eachother. We do hang out allot with other friends tough.

you're at a new school. you have a great opportunity to leave that stuff behind. no one knows that are like that, so don't act like it. stand up straight when spoken to, don't mumble, etc. Look confident, be confident in what you do and people will like you for that.

I would've done that if I could but im improving. I do get nervous when I meet new people and my voice raises so thats ass. I have a really deep voice by nature so its really obvious.
I try to get allong with everybody but there is this one girl who keeps stuff talking me. Im not even sure if shes serious or joking and just take it as a joke and jokingly agree.
"You, a girlfriend? You need a miracle for that to happen."
"I need like 5 miracles, fam"
Well shes not wrong.

[Lego lad]

As most if you know I have a very bad case of social anxiety. I try to stay away from social activity every way I can. But that has changed. Since I transfered to a new school everything has been going allot better and my social fear has imroved by allot. I even want the weekends to be over asap so I can talk to my friends again. Ive been able to make small talk with the barber, Start conversations with random people and whatsnot.
I still think people talk stuff about me tough wich is very annoying. I keep saying its just in my head but I cant supress it that wel other than ignoring it.
So yeah I got that going for me. Grades are improving too, motivation is skyrockting and my self esteem is slowly raising (its still rock bottom tough).
I do get kind of depressed during vacations because than I get bored af and want to meet up with friend but theyre usually doing other stuff wich my social anxiety translates to that they dont want to be arround me. This is probably the last topic I will make about my mental issues. Thanks everyone who helped me, you helped trough allot.

hnnng

but anyway gj op

[Darryl McKoy]

as i've told you before do NOT tell yourself that you have social anxiety. you are setting yourself up for excuses and your mind will follow to conform to it.

I disagree and think denial isn't a healthy way to handle it either.

[espio100]

hnnng

but anyway gj op

Ive been typing a lot wrong my entire life
Smh

Edit: is that a pun???

[Lego lad]

Edit: is that a pun???

maybe it is
maybe it isnt

ive ascended to the point where everything i say, eat, drink, and breath is a pun

i am the pun

[Nickelob Ultra]

I dont really want to bother my parents with my mental problems and let them pay 50 euros for someone so they can talk to me for an hour.

Are you kidding 50 forgetin euros??  You've GOT to take advantage of that, I'm weeping for the day I graduate college and I'll no longer have cheaper subsidized appointment costs <$50 and will have to start paying who even knows how much.

For your mental health it's not too expensive, trust me.  Even to just talk to someone, it's worth it.  I seriously recommend you consider it even just once, when things start to go bad at least.