Did you ever deal with long distance relationships?

[PhantOS]

"Facts"

Opinions =/= Facts bru

the fact that text-based relationships aren't real fruitful relationships is well known, just like friends with benefits, or sugar daddies. its just liking someone for one of the key needs of a relationship, but not all

Dude, we're not talking about internet relationships, we're talking about long distance relationships aka personal relationships that go long distance for any period of time. That's sorta what I loving hinted at with the quote you glossed over completely

LDRs aren't supposed to last forever, that's kind of the point, staking it out long distance until they can be personal, healthy relationships again. Your bullstuff about it "not working" doesn't help anyone

then maybe i misunderstood the definition, if thats the case then im sorry

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[IkeTheGeneric]

then maybe i misunderstood the definition, if thats the case then im sorry

duuuuude lol sorry but thats like a huge part of the miscommunication here

internet relationships don't work, but ldr implies that the relationship became long distance with the idea that it will become personal, not something that stays long distance forever

The reason my long distance relationship didn't work out is just because me and my bf just didn't have the time or the money to get back together and decided to end it on good terms

[PhantOS]

ldrs with someone you personally have known at some point is definitely better, but the fact remains that eventually the core needs of a relationship have to be met. that part is probably understood by now.

i guess what i'm trying to say is that continuing an ldr with the intent of never being able to commit or return (say you're moving and your partner can't come with ever) is essentially the end of the relationship and just beating a dead horse. for some people, its easier to say goodbye than to try to ldr.

[Headcrab Zombie]

i guess what i'm trying to say is that continuing an ldr with the intent of never being able to commit or return (say you're moving and your partner can't come with ever) is essentially the end of the relationship and just beating a dead horse. if by some miracle you manage to return, then sure it continues

If you were in that situation and decided that ending the relationship would be the best, then that would be your choice, and no one is saying you shouldn't do so.

But you can't tell someone else "oh guess it's time for you to end your relationship now" because not everyone has the same needs or is looking for the same thing as you.

[PhantOS]

as i said before, having only one need out of a relationship doesn't make it a relationship. the relationship ends the moment you leave permanently and enter that ldr phase. at that point, its not a healthy relationship as a psychologist would define it as. its just limbo between friendship and intimate emotions, and it will gradually descend into friendship and later into acquaintances. some people like that more than others, and there's no problem with that, but its not a relationship

just like you cant consider friends with benefits as a relationship, you can't consider permanent ldr a relationship. it just lacks the needs that a healthy relationship requires to be sustainable

[Headcrab Zombie]

as i said before, having only one need out of a relationship doesn't make it a relationship.

And as I said before, different people have different needs out of relationships.
Don't apply your needs to others.
The only thing that matters is if both parties are happy with the arrangement.

its not a healthy relationship as a psychologist would define it as.

Can you cite a psychologist for this claim?

[Steve5451²]

as i said before, having only one need out of a relationship doesn't make it a relationship.

you say this yet argue that there's one specific thing, physical touch, required to make a relationship.

[bloody jumper]

Well I'm in a long distance relationship with a girlfriend of two years. I don't think there's any real key to it, you two just gotta love each other enough to be able wait until you guys can meet.

[PhantOS]

you say this yet argue that there's one specific thing, physical touch, required to make a relationship.

no i dont? there are multiple needs for a relationship, and its possible, emphasis, possible, to not satisfy all of them, but having the bare minimum doesn't make it a relationship.

my very specific and stock need list has 4 aspects: intimacy, commitment (or financial situation), communication, emotional integrity. if you can think of a sustained and healthy relationship that can list on only one of the four i've listed, be my guest

[Gock.]

path got cucked lol

[Headcrab Zombie]

no i dont? there are multiple needs for a relationship, and its possible, emphasis, possible, to not satisfy all of them, but having the bare minimum doesn't make it a relationship.

my very specific and stock need list has 4 aspects: intimacy, commitment (or financial situation), communication, emotional integrity. if you can think of a sustained and healthy relationship that can list on only one of the four i've listed, be my guest

So are you just going to ignore me, or...?

And as I said before, different people have different needs out of relationships.
Don't apply your needs to others.

[Filipe]

Guys please, I would appreciate if you could move this discussion elsewhere, I just wanted to know your stories about the matter.

Speaking of it, if our relationship goes further, we will try to find a way to see each other once or twice per month, so it's not THAT bad so to speak.

[bloody jumper]

no i dont? there are multiple needs for a relationship, and its possible, emphasis, possible, to not satisfy all of them, but having the bare minimum doesn't make it a relationship.

You have no authority to define when a relationship exists and doesn't. If both people are happy and content in their situation, then you have no horse in that race. You don't get to say "Nah, that doesn't count." because it certainly means something to the parties involved.

[torin²]

headcrab........ did you forget what i said...........

[PhantOS]

path got cucked lol

i dont believe in love anyways. i just like my richard sucked

So are you just going to ignore me, or...?

if you want to get loose with the definition of a romantic relationship, then sure, you can argue that relationships can function on one of those needs alone. you can classify golddigging as a romantic relationship too, if you want to go there. however, the fact remains that its not a healthy relationship. it won't last long, which is what matters- it all boils down to the semantics of the definition of a relationship

if you're happy in whatever situation you're in, i have no reason to tell you what you can and can't do

You have no authority to define when a relationship exists and doesn't. If both people are happy and content in their situation, then you have no horse in that race. You don't get to say "Nah, that doesn't count." because it certainly means something to the parties involved.

you're right, i can find a sugar mommy online who i sell my richard to for money and call it romantic too. anything's possible in the wild world of 'you can't define relationships'