Social skills!

[Retz]

i was joking/being sarcastic

So you have friends now?

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[zaksar]

I have bad social skills because my asbergers I have some friends tho

[Valen]

Really? way to state the obvious. Now I hate you D:< you forgettard.


Anyway usually when people are really shy, they had a bad child hood, or bad parents.

[jirue]

"I don't believe in friends"
                  - Freeman's Mind

[Retz]

Really? way to state the obvious. Now I hate you D:< you forgettard

I figured it out through logic and what others do or say.

[Valen]

I figured it out through logic and what others do or say.

How is that a proper reply to what I said? I was practically saying there was no need to make this topic...

[Retz]

Really? way to state the obvious. Now I hate you D:< you forgettard.


Anyway usually when people are really shy, they had a bad child hood, or bad parents.

Bad childhood, no.  That is just in the books or movies to make you feel pity for them.

How is that a proper reply to what I said? I was practically saying there was no need to make this topic...

Isn't that just saying, "I don't care"

[qevil]

So you have friends now?

always have and will have friends.

yes, i mean actual human beings that i meet face to face. not on/over the internet/computer.

[Valen]

Bad childhood, no.  That is just in the books or movies to make you feel pity for them.

So much for logic and learning, right?

[Retz]

So much for logic and learning, right?

Better than asking people.

[Valen]

Better than asking people.

Sorry I didn't get my points across were you could understand it. Your too dumb to understand.

1.You didn't need to make this topic
2.What your saying is common knowledge
3.Some people are shy for many reasons the biggest reason being there childhood. (which you don't understand because you ARE still a child)

[Muffinmix]

Generally shyness comes from a lack of confidence, and a lack of confidence might come from a lack of social skills but more often then not it comes from another source. If you're going to fix a problem you'll have to go to the starting point and work back up to make sure you're not wasting your time and effort.

[Rughugger]

I'm shy in social situations. Mostly when it comes to deal with meeting people for the first time. I always have a problem thinking of what to say for a conversation because my likes are limited to a couple things that I feel no one would possibly have in common. So I usually just sit at the back of the room and don't make any noise. On the web or when I'm with friends, I don't have that problem....just plain weird.

[MtnDew]

Im outgoing at school.

[Ghoul]

I get every day pleasantries horribly wrong constantly.

For instance, I'll drop off my money and tell the lunch people at my school what I want them to order, and when we're done they'll say "thank you!" I'll then spend a few seconds trying to think of what to say. "You're welcome" doesn't sound right at all for the situation, and "thank you" would just be repeating what they said.

If someone asks me "what's up" I usually say "Hi", which is horribly wrong, because I'm thinking "what's up" is a greeting.

If I happen to compliment someone, they'll say thanks. "You're welcome" isn't the thing to say for a thank you for a compliment, so I have no idea what to say. Normally I just do a small "hehe" chuckle, but it turns into a horribly awkward situation.

Then there's eye contact. Ugh, if I look at someone's eyes, I get all nervous and my heart rate jumps through the roof, and I can feel my face getting red. It's nothing conscious about making eye contact that makes me nervous. I have no control over it.

Because of these, I'm the socially awkward kid at the school, and usually very low in the social hierarchy because people think I'm being submissive. Something about my mind doesn't get social interaction very well. :(

TL;DR: I'm socially awkward. Halp.