Social skills!

[Sarge]

I feel 'ya on the eye contact thing. For the compliment thing, just say thanks and nothing else.

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[Ghoul]

I feel 'ya on the eye contact thing. For the compliment thing, just say thanks and nothing else.

Naw, it's when you compliment someone and they say thanks. Do you reply with nothing? That's the part I don't get.

[tails]

I tried being social but everybody was just liek "lawl ur gays"

so now i don't bother.

[zookuw]

"I don't believe in friends"
                  - Freeman's Mind

QFT

[Chrono]

Communicating online can help you not lose social skills. That is if you see it as no difference.
I don't understand why people make it seem so different. It's just another form of communication.
I can still talk to people. I don't get out much either. I think my social skills are fine.

[Skele]

Some people just don't make friends with everyone. Having a few good friends is better than having a lot.

Personally, I was most social in my technology classes. Reason being is that their interests were similar to mine, so it was easy to get along and talk about something.

[Chrono]

As Skele said, quality over quantity.

[Muffinmix]

Naw, it's when you compliment someone and they say thanks. Do you reply with nothing? That's the part I don't get.

No you move to another topic with something like "Oh yeah I also heard about this thing on the news blah blah blah...", or if it was for a simple transaction like buying something from a store clerk then you just say "Have a good day" or "Goodbye"

Communicating online can help you not lose social skills. That is if you see it as no difference.
I don't understand why people make it seem so different. It's just another form of communication.
I can still talk to people. I don't get out much either. I think my social skills are fine.

Online chat does help develope some very basic idea about how to interact with people but in the real world there's a stuffload of other factors that come into play and you basically need to practice around those. Body language is a huge factor in the real world as you might have noticed yourself in how talking to someone face-to-face tells you allot more about the person then talking through a block of text, even if you know what the person looks like. You can master simple communication online but you also need to master linguistic and body language for the real world. Baby-steps I guess but there's only so much the online world will provide you with.

Some people just don't make friends with everyone. Having a few good friends is better than having a lot.

Personally, I was most social in my technology classes. Reason being is that their interests were similar to mine, so it was easy to get along and talk about something.

Later on in post-secondary studies making friends and colleagues is super important and can mean the difference between a low-end job and a management position. You gotta make connections sooner or later and it takes quite a bit of practice. So for now you can still practice socializing even with the folk that don't interest you.

[Chrono]

Online chat does help develope some very basic idea about how to interact with people but in the real world there's a stuffload of other factors that come into play and you basically need to practice around those. Body language is a huge factor in the real world as you might have noticed yourself in how talking to someone face-to-face tells you allot more about the person then talking through a block of text, even if you know what the person looks like. You can master simple communication online but you also need to master linguistic and body language for the real world. Baby-steps I guess but there's only so much the online world will provide you with.

Yes I understand that. But really, that kind of thing comes naturally. The time you can take to think when communicating online does help in building the ability to understand faster, and can be used to improve in face-to-face conversations. I do communicate face-to-face, just not as often as I do online.

[Muffinmix]

Yes I understand that. But really, that kind of thing comes naturally. The time you can take to think when communicating online does help in building the ability to understand faster, and can be used to improve in face-to-face conversations. I do communicate face-to-face, just not as often as I do online.

It does come naturally but that's just the first step. You can get better at it, allot better, to the point where you can brown townyze people accurately and entirely based off of a simple exchange, then manipulate them flawlessly if you're into that twisted stuff. Likely what you'd want to do is be able to defend yourself against manipulation, which is equally as difficult.

The best example I can give you is Car Dealers, which can persuade you to buy a car that they noticed caught your eye. They can do this without even loving mentioning the car, the good ones can take a long-winded system to basically build your interest in the car only to showcase it to you later when they know the time is right. They can immediately see impulsiveness in people and exploit it. They see lack of confidence immediately and can devise a plan to convince the client that the car will make him great, successful, etc. in the eyes of the public. The best part is they do this mostly with subconscious effects like body language so unless you're really looking for it you'll not even notice. They're just that good socially.

You might still be more knowledgeable then them sure but that doesn't mean much when they can clearly already see that's what you think and devise a plan to convince you black is white. You might not believe me but I've gone and dealt with car dealers numerous times before with my dad when I was a kid, and I have nothing but respect for them for basically being the social ninjas they are.

[Chrono]

I see what you mean. I'll keep that in mind.

[Retz]

I get every day pleasantries horribly wrong constantly.

For instance, I'll drop off my money and tell the lunch people at my school what I want them to order, and when we're done they'll say "thank you!" I'll then spend a few seconds trying to think of what to say. "You're welcome" doesn't sound right at all for the situation, and "thank you" would just be repeating what they said.

If someone asks me "what's up" I usually say "Hi", which is horribly wrong, because I'm thinking "what's up" is a greeting.

If I happen to compliment someone, they'll say thanks. "You're welcome" isn't the thing to say for a thank you for a compliment, so I have no idea what to say. Normally I just do a small "hehe" chuckle, but it turns into a horribly awkward situation.

Then there's eye contact. Ugh, if I look at someone's eyes, I get all nervous and my heart rate jumps through the roof, and I can feel my face getting red. It's nothing conscious about making eye contact that makes me nervous. I have no control over it.

Because of these, I'm the socially awkward kid at the school, and usually very low in the social hierarchy because people think I'm being submissive. Something about my mind doesn't get social interaction very well. :(

TL;DR: I'm socially awkward. Halp. 

We have alot in common.

[oromis]

If you aren't around people (besides family) all the time, you won't know how to talk.

What the forget? So I need people around me when I shower, take a stuff, Go to sleep, get dressed, play Team Fortress 2, and everything else? No. I have a decent amount of friends, and a computer.

[Thorax]

It does come naturally but that's just the first step. You can get better at it, allot better, to the point where you can brown townyze people accurately and entirely based off of a simple exchange, then manipulate them flawlessly if you're into that twisted stuff. Likely what you'd want to do is be able to defend yourself against manipulation, which is equally as difficult.

Working on this at the moment... >:) Today I got 5 dollars from a couple of people without offering to pay them back or them asking me to pay them back/assuming I would.

[Mateo]

People can have many reasons for being shy. Having problems, not being good around people, being shy around multiple people, being shy around women, family problems can cause shyness as well.

I personally don't like most people. Most people I know are incapable of holding up an intelligent conversation. And others are whores and point out any small mistake in your speech, even if they only misheard you. (I talk relatively fast and quiet, for the record.) Not to say I'm shy, I just stay away from people who are idiots and starfishs. Which is pretty much every teenager anywhere, probably including myself. However I cannot judge myself because I cannot see my actions from the outside... I also hate people who are hypocrites, which is, similar the last statement, pretty much every person everywhere.