All right. I would like to sort of announce that this has been resolved. USAF Airman agreed to come to my server to figure this out, which we did. I think USAF is explaining his side at the moment.
I was mean to gothic, at one point, and banned her, during a time when I was very tense and snapped at nearly everything. This happens to me a lot. However, I was NOT being offensive and loveist, as he had been led to believe, preceding him coming to my server in a rage.
As it seems to be, he actually was being sarcastic in his last IRC replies, which set me off the most, but admits he should have worded it better for the situation...
I admit that I reacted very badly. At the time, I was angry, as I get, and I should have tried harder to get this issue found out and resolved before starting this topic about him and basically fueling the flames here. Although I didn't intend to, I did spread slander by taking what was meant to be sarcasm and naming the topic as it is.
USAF should be posting about this shortly, and this topic should be locked if possible.