Unfortunately, though, rughugger, god is omnipotent and it's really his fault we killed his son since we were created in his image. I'd be mad if an ant colony killed my hypothetical fault, but if I'd created the ants then sent my son instead of using my omnipotence in a better way to tell my creation I loved it that would be my fault, wouldn't it? Of course your god is a prig so you never know how he'll react.
I don't see how a God who created people with free will can be at fault for killing his son. In a sense, you're saying that we humans as a creation are not in control of our own destinies? If that's the case, wouldn't everyone in the world be religious if God was indeed in charge of everything we do? Atheism wouldn't exist if that was the case and there wouldn't really be any of these silly debates to worry about in the first place.
Let me know if I am misreading this, because that's what I am getting from your statement there. :)
Also about the whole Gay thing, I have heard from a minister I watch on television, Joel Osteen, that God does not hate Gay people for he created them as well and loves them equally. Same for the Atheists. From what I was taught, there are things in life that will make you question and even lose your faith for one reason or another. God will not spite you for that. Instead, he will wait patiently for you, even if that means the very day you die and go to see him. If, standing before him, you still wish to renounce his existence, that is a choice you make for yourself. Such as he gave you the free will to do so. Will you get into heaven then? Probably not, but does it leave you to a fiery lake of damnation, no. Most likely wander in some form of Purgatory where you have eternity to think about anything you wish.