so im upset

[danisaac5]

but now im left friendless and sad here in cold ass michigan.

anyone who has moved away have any perspective on what the forget to do

like I am very self-conscious about being awkward or a try-hard so often times I either don't impress or I blow it.

where is the perfect medium.

next time you go to school or college, just start speaking with someone in one of your classes, it doesn't matter who it is right now, but you'll only make proper friends if you talk to people and don't skulk around.

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[DiceyGrammar]

but now im left friendless and sad here in cold ass michigan.

anyone who has moved away have any perspective on what the forget to do

like I am very self-conscious about being awkward or a try-hard so often times I either don't impress or I blow it.

where is the perfect medium.

this might sound left field, but stop comparing yourself to other people. you might not think you are, but this is what the root of most people's problems come down to.

you know you can make friends because you've done it before. you know you can socialize already because you have. the only thing throwing yourself off right now is that you're trying to hold yourself to some arbitrary friend standard.
don't focus on friends, or socializing; that stuff is natural. you don't need to have x number of friends by x date. focus on existing. focus on your workouts. the rest will just come naturally when your mind isn't there to trip yourself over.

[Khorde]

Whatever you do

if you do confront her

Don't approach this like a damn hollywood screenplay

she's 1k miles away mang, I don't think I'm going to do stuff like that anyway. The first time I caught her was really good. She was unsuspecting that I knew and one day that skype conversation appeared on her facebook wall and stewed for a whole day before her friend notified her of it. stuff was jokes.

but seriously, I removed her from everything I had her added to. I deleted all her pictures off my phone, so now I don't have to worry. I'm just going to keep on trucking.

as for friends...

I have a few up here.

- This one girl who snapchats me sometimes, partied with her, she plays uke, 7/10 cute but kind of boring.
- This dude who is chill, but plebby as ALL forget. he has a zelda and nightmare before christmas tattoo and is stuck in the early highschool music phase. Don't get me wrong, he's cool, but vanilla and not really close friend material.
- semi cute asian girl who i totally forgeted things up with. things worked out early on, but I totally blew my cover.
- Another girl I've known for years, she's nice and interesting. Not super attractive, but a cool friend none the less. She goes to the university and is always busy with her boyfriend so I hate being a third wheel.


not very many dude friends for whatever loving reason. I think I should find some clique to fit in to.

[Khorde]

this might sound left field, but stop comparing yourself to other people. you might not think you are, but this is what the root of most people's problems come down to.

you know you can make friends because you've done it before. you know you can socialize already because you have. the only thing throwing yourself off right now is that you're trying to hold yourself to some arbitrary friend standard.
don't focus on friends, or socializing; that stuff is natural. you don't need to have x number of friends by x date. focus on existing. focus on your workouts. the rest will just come naturally when your mind isn't there to trip yourself over.

this is very good advice, thank you so much for posting this mang. Smooth sailing here on out.

[comr4de]

I don't see how blackmailing could possibly help the situation at all. You seem to have an opportunity to just move on, cut this person out of your life, and keep this stuff behind you. Do you really want to make this drag on any longer than it needs to?

So much this. The best thing you can do is better yourself so you can make her regret her actions. Chalk it up to a learning experience and move on. I've been through something similar to this (at least, the whole being led on while she has bf part), nothing good comes from getting revenge.