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Eh, my life isn't so bad, but I have an starfish for a step-dad.


High-five! :cookieMonster:
No. Please do not joke about that. I thought he was a cool guy, but he was left to watch a girl the age of 9 in a house. He had some urges I guess.

No. Please do not joke about that. I thought he was a cool guy, but he was left to watch a girl the age of 9 in a house. He had some urges I guess.
wow
he should just fap, instead of going for a one time shot that lands him like 10 years in prison

Same thoughts. Or hit a titty bar.

I required an 'operation' on my arm recently. I was running around kicking a soccer ball with friends when I tripped, sprained my ankle, and broke a piece of my growth plate of my arm. Sometimes, I can be horribly depressed. My dad has 4 Masters degree and a high rate of steady income. My mom used to be a nurse and now is a stay - at - home mom. I get straight A's in school, have skipped a grade in Math, and consider myself to be pretty bad-ass. I have MAJOR teeth problems though, and I just had Oral Surgery yesterday. Mainly, its my medical life that's a pisser.
EDIT: My cousin is in jail for child molestation.
We are basically the same except i didnt break my arm, i still have same dental crap and my cousin is in jail for molestation and possession :/

In addition, my cousin is adopted. We're not related. (Thank Jesus)

And on a serious note, I've attempted Self Delete... 6 times. No one likes me and the internet is my only haven. I love you guys ;-;

although my life is considerably better since i've transfered schools

Same here, hence I muttered the words snake party at outdoor ed when I was high on KOOL AID and I was all like ssaffsdfsdf...

...it's geting better.

In addition, my cousin is adopted. We're not related. (Thank Jesus)
Jesus christ, I keep thinking you're Bones4.

Update on my life!
I have a couple of people telling me that I should report my Mum, I'm a bit unsure about it, so I looked up some things. I don't really want to report her for obvious reasons. No matter how bad she may be I still love her, she's still my Mum.

From the Dysfunctional family page on Wikipedia, here are some things that I never really realized were bad before:

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Unhealthy parenting signs
(Mum's problems)

# Being under or over protective Example: She doesn't let me go for walks unless it's with Dad, she always has to know where someone is when they're there. You have to call her when you get in the car, when you're at the store, when you're in the store, when you're checking out, when you're leaving the store, and finally when you're almost home.
# Apathy ("I don't care!") Example: Often she and my brother argue. During the end when she's sick of talking to him, she'll say this and tell him she's done.
# Hypocrisy ("Do as I say, not as I do") Example: "Don't smoke, do drugs, or drink" She's done all of these things. "Don't get preggers before you're married" She did that with me and one of my brothers. "Never let a man treat you wrong." My Dad never spends time with her, he's not treating her very well yet she's still with him.
# "Mixed messages" by having a dual system of values (i.e. one set for the outside world, another when in private, or teaching divergent values to each child)
# Gender prejudice (treats one gender of children fairly; the other unfairly) Example: She's always done this with me and my brothers. She takes me out shopping for clothes, when two of my brothers hardly have anything.
# The "know-it-all" (has no need to obtain child's side of the story when accusing, or listen to child's opinions on matters which greatly impact them) Example: Hmm, I think my schooling would leave a great impact on my life.
# Isolation (parents unwilling to reach out to other families--especially those with children of the same gender and approximate age, or do nothing to help their "friendless" child) Example: I never see my cousins, the last time I did was a couple years ago from that family reunion we had.
# Unfulfilled projects, activities, and promises affecting children Example: Wow, no school much?

Dysfunctional parenting styles

# Using (destructively narcissistic parents with rule by fear and conditional love) Example: Mum always used to tell me when I was younger, that "It's better to have your children fear you a little."
# Asymmetrical parenting (going to extremes for one child while continually ignoring the needs of another) Example: Always giving me things while she gives my other brother hardly anything. Clothes for example.
# Perfectionist (fixating on order, prestige, power, and/or perfect appearances)
# Dogmatic or cult-like (harsh and inflexible discipline with children not allowed to dissent, question authority, or develop their own value system) Example: If I point out that she was being a bit of a hypocrite when saying this or that to somebody, she'll ignore me and tell me I was wrong.
# "Public image manager" (sometimes related to above, children warned to not disclose what fights, abuse, or damage happens at home, or face severe punishment "Don't tell anyone what goes on in this family") Example: If someone irl asks me about school, I have to tell them I'm on a short break. If someone asks me why I'm so pale I have to tell them that I'm not sure why,  and that I do take frequent walks. I'm not allowed to tell anybody about what goes on in my house, hell I wasn't even supposed to tell you guys. Nobody is supposed to know.
# "My baby forever" (a mother who will not allow one or more of her young children to grow up and begin taking care of themselves) Example: Mum always calls me her 'little girl'. This is normal, but she won't teach me how to wash dishes, or clean anything.
# "The politician" (a parent who repeatedly makes or agrees to children's promises while having little or no intention of keeping them) Example: I'm not sure if she never has an intention to keep them, but she just doesn't.

Children in dysfunctional families
(These are my problems)

# have little self-discipline when parents are not around, such as compulsive spending, procrastinating too close to deadlines, etc. (unfamiliar and seemingly lax "real-world" consequences vs. familiar parental consequences) Example: I had painting class every Thursday last month. I also had painting home work. I would end up doing my home work the day of the class, but I always got it finished.
# spend an inordinate amount of time alone watching television, playing video games, surfing the internet, listening to music, and other activities which lack in-person social interaction Example: Do I even need an example for this one? I mean honestly?
# feel angry, anxious, depressed, isolated from others, or unlovable Example: I only feel this way when I'm left alone for too long and if I have nothing to do.
# have difficulty expressing emotions Example: I often cover up how I feel irl and just bottle everything up.

So I want your opinions on this. Do I put aside how much I love my Mum and risk going to a foster home that can potentially be a really bad choice yet I might get schooled, or do I stay at home and risk never going to school which could lead to regret further down the road? Either way there are lots or pros and cons, and I only want more opinions on this.

Some of you said online classes, which is actually kind of hard to find. A couple of you are working to try and help me, which I'm really thankful for. The only problem is that if Mum finds out people online are attempting to help me, she'll get mad.

Jesus christ, I keep thinking you're Bones4.
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thats not bones4?
loving hell

I would tell her how you want to go get proper schooling, if she still refuses then report her. You might feel bad but it can't be good for you to not go to school in the long run.

Huh. My life is pretty good, actually. I think I fractured my little toe once, but if I did, it was so minor that I didn't need to go to the hospital. I only dislike 2 people in my family, and I barely see them anyway because they are my cousins and they live far away, while the rest of my family I see all the time. I have great grades (All A's FTW), and good friends. There are only about 2 people I don't like at school, and the rest are either slightly annoying or just there. I've never had a crush on anyone though. :P My dad has a good job, and my Mom is mostly stay-at-home. Strangely, I get along very well with my sister, who is 2 years younger than me. I only play solo sports, though, such as Badminton, Swimming, Wakeboarding, and Snowboarding.

I'm glad I'm not any of you people. :P

I say you report her. You've got to stop worrying about your mom and more about yourself. Like you said this affects your life.

I could link you all to my other post.  It's just me whining a forgetton, though :c
Oh wait, it's in this topic.  Gah, I feel dumb.
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