Getting in touch with my mom. [Reply]

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Get ready for a loving heart-fuzzy story.

So, currently, I live with my father somewhere in Minnesota after my mom, for whatever reason, sent me to live with my dad after one night of a mega stupid event involving her druggie ass boyfriend and I. For maybe six months I lived in Idaho with my dad and half sister while we were house-sitting for my grandparents. My mom continued to send letters and little plastic cards that expressed how much she thought of me. Well, one night while I was watching a movie with my dad, my grandma called and said that my mom had married her jackass boyfriend, and that didn't fly well with anybody. I got really emotional over the next few weeks and sent her a single nasty text which, for some ass reason, I didn't think she'd receive. She called the next day and asked about it and I felt horrible, and I choked up and hung up. Then, out of personal selfishness, I expected her to call me back some time but she never did. I guess I always thought that she was the mother and it was partly her responsibility to keep up our relationship. We stayed out of touch for maybe six months and here I am today.

Thanks to Google, I have recovered her current information, like her current address, phone number, and whatever else I would need. Thing is, I'm a giant pusillanimous individual and I'm not just going to call her out of the middle of loving no where. So I decided to send her a letter. Thing is, it's probably going to shock her some when she sees that letter in her mail and I'm having a bit of trouble figuring out exactly what to say in it. I have a page now with current settings, an apology and whatnot. I don't know exactly how much depth I should put into it, or even what to put into it...

Any ideas?

TL;DR - Recovering ~2 year relationship with mother via letter. Ideas on what to include?

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[mrlolop]

Must resist making a joke about the title.
As for the letter, put alot of detail into it, make it meaningful

[SeventhSandwich]

Ffff...

[Riot]

 Oh wow :D

[Godik7]

Must resist making a joke about the title.

forget off.
He's trying to make up for a forget up and he can admit he is scared to.

OP
If I were in your shoes I'd apologies, and tell her that her boyfriend wasn't right for her or something along those lines. Though I'm not sure of the situation so I'd just be honest if I were you.

[*Magick* Mage]

Be honest. Tell her how you feel, what you think. Apologize. Be kind in your words. Remember she is part of your family and essentially part of you. Good luck with this. I hope all goes well c: <3

And, dear, remember: She is your mother. A petty argument couldn't come between you, but she is just hurt. It seems a lot is going on in both of your lives. I think you should call her, as hard as it may be. Take your time, of course, you don't have to rush into it. But always remember that she is your mother. She does still and always will Love you.

[SeventhSandwich]

Why again do people think that if you Baww on off topic people will sympathize.

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If I were in your shoes I'd apologies, and tell her that her boyfriend wasn't right for her or something along those lines. Though I'm not sure of the situation so I'd just be honest if I were you.

I thought about explaining what happened from my point of view. It was a big deal, the police showed up and everything and hauled his ass to jail. I thought about explaining what I really thought of him.

She said she primarily got mad that I didn't call her which I can understand but for some reason I never even thought to call her. Besides, it's really not that bad that it's worth sending me away for.

I also feel like she pretty much chose her boyfriend (well... husband) over me.

And for reference, my grandmother believes that my mother has some slight psychological issues.

Be honest. Tell her how you feel, what you think. Apologize. Be kind in your words. Remember she is part of your family and essentially part of you. Good luck with this. I hope all goes well c: <3

And, dear, remember: She is your mother. A petty argument couldn't come between you, but she is just hurt. It seems a lot is going on in both of your lives. I think you should call her, as hard as it may be. Take your time, of course, you don't have to rush into it. But always remember that she is your mother. She does still and always will Love you.

I was sure to word it delicately and not blatantly accuse her of doing anything wrong, though, in my eyes, we both did some stupid stuff. I honestly don't see what she could be so hurt about to never try to mend our relationship again, because she should also realize how much she crushed me by marrying that starfish who doesn't even treat her right.

As for the last part, I did indeed include that. :)

Why again do people think that if you Baww on off topic people will sympathize.

I'm sorry, could you point me in the direction of the person expecting sympathy?

All I see here is a 15 year old asking the assistance of the public to write a heart-warming letter to his long lost mother.

[chaseyqurt]

As soon as I saw the thread title I thought incest.

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As soon as I saw the thread title I thought incest.

Of course you would.

Thanks for staying on topic, too, it's appreciated.

[Antallion]

put your richard in her

[*Magick* Mage]

I was sure to word it delicately and not blatantly accuse her of doing anything wrong, though, in my eyes, we both did some stupid stuff. I honestly don't see what she could be so hurt about to never try to mend our relationship again, because she should also realize how much she crushed me by marrying that starfish who doesn't even treat her right.

One of the most terrible things in this world that anyone could possibly go through is losing their child. Maybe that's why she got so upset over your comments and hanging up on her.

As for her boyfriend, you have every right to want better for her. But perhaps he has changed. Perhaps there is a reason she married him that you don't know. Now, I don't know the whole story, but I can understand similarity to what your going through.

Just, I stress to you, remember she is your mother. She Loves you and, from the sound of it, you Love her. Best wishes. c:

[Colten]

Youre moms is a bitch and you should tell her that. From what I understand she chose her boyfriend over you. Thats horrible :/

[Coupon]

Man you are sick. Getting in touch with your mom. Oh, that way.

Is there anyway you could make it shorter for those who don't like to read paragraphs online.

[IkeTheGeneric]

Is there anyway you could make it shorter for those who don't like to read paragraphs online.

Read it or leave the thread.