Author Topic: Were my parents judgement rightful?  (Read 2670 times)

First of all no I am not a little child. I am at the age of 15 soon turning 16.

So to tell the story, I was on a skype chat with Nobot and some others. Of course they would be using what some would call "cuss words". While chatting with them, my mom walked into the room. Upon the action of walking into the room she was hearing the chat going on skype for I was silly enough not to wear a headset. My mom heard the language they were using and at that point made me hang up the chatroom. She then yelled at me, lectured me, got my dad involved and took away all my possessions such as my computer, consoles and my Xoom tablet. Basically all besides my ever-forgotten phone (what I am using right now). My mom then told me "I am dissapointed in you" which is all she ever seems to tell me nowadays.

I have not used any of this language for I have set some moral standards for myself to follow however have still had my possessions confiscated from me.

Understandably, this might be justified due to my mom coming from China, exposed to a very strict and legalistic culture however, I still don't understand.

Could she even do this to me even when I am at such a high age full of independence?

Was this even fair to be stripped of my possessions and priviledges for something I have not even done.

Tell me what you guys think about this.

/discuss
« Last Edit: July 25, 2011, 03:02:59 AM by Sirherg1 »

Can't you sit her down and tell her what you just said here, about "I have not used any of this language for I have set some moral standards for myself to follow however have still had my possessions confiscated from me."

lol

your mom needs to chill out.

though she is just showing her love for you, so don't hate her for something as trivial as this.

Can't you sit her down and tell her what you just said here, about "I have not used any of this language for I have set some moral standards for myself to follow however have still had my possessions confiscated from me."
I have attempted this. It has ended with her telling me "I am dissapointed in you" and went on questioning how I could make such friends.

Yeah, it's pretty harsh. Especially considering your age, cursing should never be a reason to get in trouble. Especially not if you didn't even curse in front of her.

"mom from china" made the whole thing make sense.

Live with it.

Too harsh. Some parents these days need to learn to
chill out.

though she is just showing her love for you, so don't hate her for something as trivial as this.
This is understandably correct. However, isn't this a little to far to display affection and love?

Tell her to get that log out of her ass.

Tell her to get that log out of her ass.
It would be very un-eventful if I did so and would possibly provoke even more trouble and suspension.

tell her kids in your school at your age use that kind of language all the time because they probably do

and if she questions people like us as your friends she might as well question every kid at school for ever possibly being your friend

i love punishments of getting privileges and things taken away.
the logic of being forced to do something when you have nothing left to lose is laughable.

the real result to this kind of "punishment", is that you are paying for misbehavings in the future that have yet to happen, or never will.
its about this time when kids lose respect for parents to. because there isnt a lesson to be learned anymore. its an ignorant parents desperate attempt to simply upset the kid as a "revenge" act. its not about teaching anymore, its about making the parent feel better. lol

what you should do?
well if swearing is what they hate. and they are pre-punishing you;
then you owe them some filthy language. remember you have nothing to lose now. get what is owed to you.

That's bullstuff.  They shouldn't be punishing you for something your friends did.

your moms a bitch
just start doing bad stuff to piss her off, if shes anything like my mom shell breakdown and flipout and just tell you to forgetoff  :cookieMonster:
also i agree with bisjac

That's bullstuff.  They shouldn't be punishing you for something your friends did.