Not Having Friends~

[Stocking]

Yerp, only one Im iffy on is appearance.

You don't have to be lovey-hot to make friends or romantic partners of either gender.

You don't have to be rich to get friends.

You don't have to be explosively extroverted to be likable.

You don't have to have a massive ego to be cool.

You don't have to be a genius to make pleasant conversation.

You don't have to be a sage to be respected.

etc. etc.

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[Colten]

You don't have to be lovey-hot to make friends or romantic partners of either gender.

You don't have to be rich to get friends.

You don't have to be explosively extroverted to be likable.

You don't have to have a massive ego to be cool.

You don't have to be a genius to make pleasant conversation.

You don't have to be a sage to be respected.

etc. etc.

Exactly, so those ARENT reasons for someone to not have friends lol

[DrenDran]

Thing is, I can almost agree with Colten to an extent.
How people act is their choice, and is the biggest factor in social standing.

[Packer]

I hope you meant like an inflatable tube man because thats what I thought and I lold

Thats exactly what I meant.

I don't have a big richard, I won!

Holy stuff the forums went berk'o.

[ultimamax]

In elementary, everyone hated me cause I was bad at sports or something.
So I had two friends.
After that, in middle school I had 5 friends about, and we were all just semi-nerdy people who made eachother laugh a lot.
Then two of my best friends left so I started hanging out with the more popular kids.
And that's where I stand now.

[tapemaster21]

Growing up I was home schooled and I wasn't allowed to do anything social unless it involved the church, which I hated. In result, I literally had no friends for the first 10 years of my life.

It's ok <3

[*Magick* Mage]

Who gave birth to you is your fault? How you were born, how your mind and brain were created by nature, what you experienced as a child was your fault? How you look is your fault? How you were raised to think is your fault? How you were taught to take care of yourself is your fault? Things where thousands of factors, people, and events play a part of creating is, in their entirety, your fault just because it is you?

What your basically saying is that right now you can change your ENTIRE being by the clap of your hands so you are better equip to make friends. If you're not, then you're certainly making it sound that way. There is no man out there who creates his existence by his own self and experiences life in the complete isolation of all else. Life is a complex compilation of stories told by, written by, and featuring all their characters, forever overlapping and never ending at one tale or solution.

[Colten]

Who gave birth to you is your fault? How you were born, how your mind and brain were created by nature, what you experienced as a child was your fault? How you look is your fault? How you were raised to think is your fault? How you were taught to take care of yourself is your fault? Things where thousands of factors, people, and events play a part of creating is, in their entirety, your fault just because it is you?

What your basically saying is that right now you can change your ENTIRE being by the clap of your hands so you are better equip to make friends. If you're not, then you're certainly making it sound that way. There is no man out there who creates his existence by his own self and experiences life in the complete isolation of all else. Life is a complex compilation of stories told by, written by, and featuring all their characters, forever overlapping and never ending at one tale or solution.

No Im saying its your fault those reasons are preventing you from getting friends
Like stocking said

[Nymethus]

It's not some people's fault that they have trouble branching out or making social connections.  Some kids were raised without proper social skills, and some of them are just totally out of today.  I know one guy at school who's all big into like Nintendo and all that still, and always talks like 100% perfect English online.  He still somewhat manages an okay friendship with people as far as I can tell.

You know what! You are right!

From what I see, it's the ones that cut themselves that have no friends.

it's probably the other way around though

Reason I have almost no real life friends is because everyone has some need to be a richard toward me for whatever reason.

you're the one I had one conversation with in which you managed to announce that I offended you at least three times, right?

Well, people just don't like to be my friend because I sound like a robot. :(
kidding, my huge variety of voices is my main weapon and attraction.

let me hear you speaking just for me

Upbringing
Current life matters
Personality
Self esteem
Intelligence
Mental disorders/lack there of
Level of maturity
Appearance

The list goes on and on of variables that play into. For some people, it isn't as simple as going "HEY. WE'RE FRIENDS NOW." to someone. For others, it is. Circumstances and situations change, people are different.

But once again, there are a good number of people who get so caught up in themselves and the quarrels they perceive themselves to have, that people sort of scatter away.

You're outside the frames of The American Dream! We can't have this!

it's your fault the nurse dropped you a second after you were born which caused you brain damage BEU HEU

No Im saying its your fault those reasons are preventing you from getting friends
Like stocking said

stocking is loving exaggerating it to another dimension you git

[Meditate]

I'm 78% sure Colten is raging about this because he didn't have any friends in grade school.

[Nymethus]

I'm 78% sure Colten is raging about this because he didn't have any friends in grade school.

good job nut head now he's gonna answer you and ignore everyone else

[*Magick* Mage]

No Im saying its your fault those reasons are preventing you from getting friends
Like stocking said

Granted, there is a point to that. But mine still stands as well. How a person is, who they are, who they see themselves to be, and who others see them as is not always a simple matter to overcome or to change. I understand what you're saying and to an extent I agree with you, but all people are different and I can't stress that enough. Yes, there are people who are whiny about things and have absolutely no reason why they can't make friends besides their utter lack of trying or people who give in to ultimately silly drama or pressure. That is their fault.

But with that in mind, what seems easy to you may not be easy to me and may kill a person down the street. What I'm trying to say in that is you're looking at it, it seems, from one view of them and then generalizing in the process. There are people who keep to themselves all day, but in the company of family and close friends, they are one of the most outgoing people in the world. There are people who go through traumas and stresses that you may never know about. There are people who are experiencing things that you could hardly ever imagine. People are different, as I've said time and time again....

...I have deep, personal connections with a number of people who we, as a society, tend to outcast everyday even if we're not trying. (That's actually why I mentioned the mental disorder one, but that is hardly the only factor.) Sometimes you can't assume the worst of a person just because they seem to be that way. Because when you do, sometimes, they have a way of becoming it.

Regardless, you really aren't doing that, just stating an inquiry and your opinion. I'm sorry if I've made you out to be a bad guy, I know you're not. 'Just giving my thoughts on the matter.

[tLOCObor]

lots of word........................ 0_________________________0

[Riot]

I got a phone number on my first day of school. It was on a bus heading home.

[Mega-Bear]

this topic went to stuff pretty fast