So you can trick your mind into believe something that is not there is there but you can't tell yourself not to get addicted?
Where exactly is the line of not being able to control your mind and being able to control your mind?
It's like all of those people who say you can't tell the time in a lucid dream but in truth it's just a placebo everyone told each other to be able to tell you're in a lucid dream. (Sorry)
Okay, now you're just being a richard about it. If you were sorry, you would've never posted your argument in the first place.
Also, you do have control, it's like any other addiction. You can stop smoking, if you make yourself. You can stop drinking, if you make yourself. Everything you do is controlled by you, so if you keep depending on love from the tulpa, that's you saying "I really need to do this, because I enjoy it.".