Author Topic: Teenage problems and stuff woo. (Read 2528 times)

Planr · June 11, 2012, 10:55:33 PM

just give her all your money and dont earn anymore. your just a teenager. you dont need it to survive (unless you have a car or something to get to your job).

let her figure out the hard way you're not her bottomless stash of money.

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DrenDran · June 11, 2012, 10:59:05 PM

Quote from: Planr on June 11, 2012, 10:55:33 PM

just give her all your money and dont earn anymore. your just a teenager. you dont need it to survive (unless you have a car or something to get to your job).
let her figure out the hard way you're not her bottomless stash of money.

That's just it, that's what I did. But she assumes I spent some of it (which I did) and that's the problem.
Besides, I'm hopefully getting a job at some point over the sommer.

Jeep · June 11, 2012, 11:01:01 PM

She's drinking. Vodka isn't cheap. A cheap 1 liter costs at minimum 20 dollars. It's your money, not hers. You're not the mom. 120 dollars isn't going to pay the electric bill. Maybe a bar bill.

Dexxtter · June 11, 2012, 11:01:41 PM

Stop letting her have your money. .__.

DrenDran · June 11, 2012, 11:02:42 PM

Quote from: Jeep on June 11, 2012, 11:01:01 PM

She's drinking. Vodka isn't cheap. A cheap 1 liter costs at minimum 20 dollars. It's your money, not hers. You're not the mom. 120 dollars isn't going to pay the electric bill. Maybe a bar bill.

I'm still wondering how she hides it so well, if she really does drink that much.
It could be that the bottels are older than I origionally thought, but then, why didn't she dispose of them already?
And no, she doesn't go to bars, she doesn't got out to do 'personal things' at all, as far as I know. I don't even know when she buys the alkohol.

Quote from: Dexxtter on June 11, 2012, 11:01:41 PM

Stop letting her have your money. .__.

That's what she thinks I'm doing (granted I actually don't have it), but it's parrallel to me going and buying crack with it, in her mind.

_Rave_ · June 11, 2012, 11:05:20 PM

Are you serious? You're knowingly allowing your mother to spend all your money on booze?

Katadeus · June 11, 2012, 11:06:18 PM

Count the bottles, then count them a week after she next asks for money.

DrenDran · June 11, 2012, 11:06:22 PM

Quote from: _Rave_ on June 11, 2012, 11:05:20 PM

Are you serious? You're knowingly allowing your other to spend all your money on booze?

Like I said, I have no idea how much she actually spends on it, maybe the bottels were older than I thought, but then idk why she hasn't thrown them out yet.

Quote from: Katadeus on June 11, 2012, 11:06:18 PM

Count the bottles, then count them a week after she next asks for money.

Will probably do something like this.
But god forbid she finds out I was in there.

_Rave_ · June 11, 2012, 11:08:06 PM

Do you work for your money?

Dexxtter · June 11, 2012, 11:14:37 PM

Ask her why she borrows your money. Does she even pay you back?

Planr · June 11, 2012, 11:15:00 PM

alcoholism is a big problem for some people. it can destroy families and lives. i haven't seen it happen myself, but i know its a huge problem.

RedGajin · June 11, 2012, 11:15:12 PM

Get a job and try to support her in any way you can, if she actually needs it to pay bills thats an important thing to contribute. If she begins to become seriously unstable I honestly don't know what to say other then either then try to tough it out (really stupid) or stay with your grandparents and have her go to rehab or some other sort of counseling.

Hope everything works out for you ok.

Planr · June 11, 2012, 11:16:23 PM

you should also probably contact Alateen or Al-Anon. Groups like those can help families with alcoholics. not sure what you would be able to do other than that :(
remembered this from my health class textbook :D

DrenDran · June 11, 2012, 11:32:09 PM

Quote from: _Rave_ on June 11, 2012, 11:08:06 PM

Do you work for your money?

I 'worked' for it a while ago from my mother. Can't even remember how I earned it, it was quite a while ago, seriously.
But I'll be getting a job soon.

Quote from: Dexxtter on June 11, 2012, 11:14:37 PM

Ask her why she borrows your money. Does she even pay you back?

She does, but it takes quite a while, and there's obviously no guarenntee I'll get to keep it for long.
The state government here has issued a bit of a pay cut on state workers, and I guess it's hit us.

Quote from: Planr on June 11, 2012, 11:15:00 PM

alcoholism is a big problem for some people. it can destroy families and lives. i haven't seen it happen myself, but i know its a huge problem.

Yeah, but she's been drinking to some extent as far back as I can remember.
I don't think it's that serious, I mean, I've only got one more year with her.
I think one time she had to go to AA, or at least, her parents made her, but she only went for like, two sessions, but since then she's drank in secret.

Quote from: RedGajin on June 11, 2012, 11:15:12 PM

Get a job and try to support her in any way you can, if she actually needs it to pay bills thats an important thing to contribute. If she begins to become seriously unstable I honestly don't know what to say other then either then try to tough it out (really stupid) or stay with your grandparents and have her go to rehab or some other sort of counseling.

Hope everything works out for you ok.

Thanks.
I'm happy to give her money, my concern is what she's gonna do about the fact she thinks/knows I'm buying drugs.

RedGajin · June 11, 2012, 11:39:55 PM

Quote from: DrenDran on June 11, 2012, 11:32:09 PM

Thanks.
I'm happy to give her money, my concern is what she's gonna do about the fact she thinks/knows I'm buying drugs.

What do you think would happen if you confronted her and admitted to the fact that HAVE bought drugs but didn't with any of that money? Is she a pretty unstable woman or...?