The first definition, which you for some reason went ahead and posted alongside the secondary definitions, blatantly refers to gender as love, which wikipedia defines as the following:
The second definition, the one you bolded, refers to things like "gender barriers" and "gender roles."
You are completely correct on that and I apologise that I ever thought otherwise than your wise words, oh powerful one. I still believe that Dusty has every right to be called a she and that you have right to, and I quote, call her a "Abomination that no one will ever love". You can still keep thinking that she is male and I'll keep thinking she's female. It's no use for one unbreakable object to crash into an immovable object, so let's call it a day instead of dragging it on and on and trying to convence eachother to believe something else.
Plus, I don't even know VH so I don't really know what that matter is. I do apologise for any accusations there.