beta OP learn to women
honestly in your situation just tell the friend you don't give a forget, and then talk to the girl as you normally do
they're girls, not some kind of evil monster that will ruin you and strip your life away infront of all your peers (only stokin dos taht)
treat females as you treat your male friends, and you'll be set 4 lyfe (except maybe not exactly as you treat your male friends, but you get my jest.)