I am in a relationship now

[Alyx Vance]

Congrats to the 2 of you.
Also he has yet to tell me the reason he defriended me dispite the fact that we never had any issue with each other, he just randomly defriended me. My guess is I got him on a bad day.

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[Dodger]

But i didn't make the thread, did i?

If anything, bring it up with TD not with me. He'll probably just lock it when he wakes up.

Alright, fair point, but this is still your SO here, which you choose to pair with, so you have at least a little responsibility.

[VincentTheGuy]

Alright, fair point, but this is still your SO here, which you choose to pair with, so you have at least a little responsibility.

Well yes, but no need to spiral this topic off the rails even more than it is. I'll get him to lock it when he wakes up, i told him people would not like this ahead of time. He was informed this would happen before he posted it, so we both expected it.

[Night Fox]

But i didn't make the thread, did i?
If anything, bring it up with TD not with me. He'll probably just lock it when he wakes up.

idk about other people
but personally
if my boyfriend did or said something that wasn't exactly "ok," I wouldn't just say "oh, well, he's the one who did it, not me, so bother him instead"
I'd probably even lie, and tell the people that I was the one who suggested it to him (assuming I wasn't, otherwise I'd be telling the truth)

[Sirrus]

God kids these days.

[VincentTheGuy]

idk about other people
but personally
if my boyfriend did or said something that wasn't exactly "ok," I wouldn't just say "oh, well, he's the one who did it, not me, so bother him instead"
I'd probably even lie, and tell the people that I was the one who suggested it to him (assuming I wasn't, otherwise I'd be telling the truth)

Well, i did warn TD about this situation. He was completely understanding and i even told him if it got out of hand that i would blame him completely.

We're not afraid to blame each other, we do it all the time. lol
If something that small can ruin a relationship, then it's not a good relationship.

God kids these days.

I know, too many God kids wandering around causing plagues and stuff.

[BubbaGum]

me too teehee

[Night Fox]

We're not afraid to blame each other, we do it all the time. lol
If something that small can ruin a relationship, then it's not a good relationship.

it's not about whether or not it would ruin the relationship
it's the fact that he's more important to me than I am
I'd much rather be made fun of than see him get made fun of
I already have a pretty good reputation for being stupid, anyway, but he doesn't

[Sirrus]

Like, I don't loving get it. That's the most fundamental thing behind it. You kids make plays at "love" mistaking it for affection or perhaps quite simply just friendship. You have no clue what a relationship is, truly, you can't just say that you're in it and then call everyone who speaks against it a bigot, conservative, narrow minded, etc. I don't know what you're trying to prove, I don't know what deep seated emotional problem you're playing at.

Also, I'd like to point out that this isn't a matter of being gay, or involving furry ridiculousness, or the fact that you're so young, or the fact that you apparently live worlds apart (I'm going off of PA/Netherlands).

Any one of those things by itself (besides the first and last) can discredit a real relationship, but the fact that you've mashed them all together makes it even more absurd and even more infuriating. I could see a male and a female couple, 14 years old, holding hands, saying they're in a relationship and I'd say "nope, sorry, try again when, oh I dunno, you don't have to rely on your parents to drive you places. Maybe that's a good step 1."

[Night Fox]

how does being a furry mean your relationship isn't real?

also, you're... only eighteen
and judging by the way you're reacting to this? I'm not convinced that you're comparably more mature than the rest of us

[VincentTheGuy]

Like, I don't loving get it. That's the most fundamental thing behind it. You kids make plays at "love" mistaking it for affection or perhaps quite simply just friendship. You have no clue what a relationship is, truly, you can't just say that you're in it and then call everyone who speaks against it a bigot, conservative, narrow minded, etc. I don't know what you're trying to prove, I don't know what deep seated emotional problem you're playing at.

Also, I'd like to point out that this isn't a matter of being gay, or involving furry ridiculousness, or the fact that you're so young, or the fact that you apparently live worlds apart (I'm going off of PA/Netherlands).

Any one of those things by itself (besides the first and last) can discredit a real relationship, but the fact that you've mashed them all together makes it even more absurd and even more infuriating. I could see a male and a female couple, 14 years old, holding hands, saying they're in a relationship and I'd say "nope, sorry, try again when, oh I dunno, you don't have to rely on your parents to drive you places. Maybe that's a good step 1."

Well, i see what you're saying. I completely understand.

Trust me, this isn't one of those faulty attention-wanting relationships. TD and i have known each other for a pretty decently long time and we talk pretty much every day. Over time we realized that we were a perfect couple, other than the fact that we're an ocean apart. Hopefully this will last long enough for us to one day meet mutually somewhere and spend time together, or even eventually just be together somewhere. But until then, all we have is skype and a good outlook on our relationship thus far.

[Alyx Vance]

Well as long as the 2 of you don't start fighting it should be fine.

[Sirrus]

I didn't say that I have the answer to what a real relationship is, and I think it's the kind of thing where you can only speak with authority on the topic when you know you've been in one. I'm convinced that teenagers aren't able to feel that, though, because I've gone through exactly (well, not exactly, I'm not a furry or gay) what these two children are going through now.

My whole middle school and highschool years I thought I could go through the motions of what I saw in other relationships and I would stumble upon the underlying emotion. I thought that I could say "I care for you, girl, so much." and then feel it, rather than feeling it first and then arriving at the place of the visible signs of a successful relationship.

I think a serious part of growing up is realizing that, the only way you can ever gain wisdom is through personal experience. This is the root of ideas such as "some mistakes you have to make yourself." So, I'm not saying that I'm a relationship guru and can speak with authority on what does and doesn't make a successful relationship. I HAVE however made it all the way through adolescence, highschool, and middle school, I know what it's like to be fueled by hormones and confusion over the emotional aspect, and I know how easy it is to say all the words without actually feeling them. I don't think anyone so young can really feel those words.

Trust me, this isn't one of those faulty attention-wanting relationships. TD and i have known each other for a pretty decently long time and we talk pretty much every day.

See, this is what I'm saying! This describes the interaction and the relationship I have with so many people I know and really care for, men and women, people my age and older. Just because I say to my friend "Wow, you know what, you are an amazing friend, and I really care about you." Even if they say the exact same thing back to me, that certainly doesn't mean we'd make a good couple. Hell, even "making a good couple" doesn't entail a relationship.

Again, I'm not advocating for a very specific parameter and even if I were I don't know what it'd be. I'm just saying, to truly make a loving relationship you need emotions I don't think teenagers are capable of feeling (and I'm not saying I am!)

[VincentTheGuy]

Well as long as the 2 of you don't start fighting it should be fine.

Oh don't worry, we're both completely understanding people.

I didn't say that I have the answer to what a real relationship is, and I think it's the kind of thing where you can only speak with authority on the topic when you know you've been in one. I'm convinced that teenagers aren't able to feel that, though, because I've gone through exactly (well, not exactly, I'm not a furry or gay) what these two children are going through now.

My whole middle school and highschool years I thought I could go through the motions of what I saw in other relationships and I would stumble upon the underlying emotion. I thought that I could say "I care for you, girl, so much." and then feel it, rather than feeling it first and then arriving at the place of the visible signs of a successful relationship.

I think a serious part of growing up is realizing that, the only way you can ever gain wisdom is through personal experience. This is the root of ideas such as "some mistakes you have to make yourself." So, I'm not saying that I'm a relationship guru and can speak with authority on what does and doesn't make a successful relationship. I HAVE however made it all the way through adolescence, highschool, and middle school, I know what it's like to be fueled by hormones and confusion over the emotional aspect, and I know how easy it is to say all the words without actually feeling them. I don't think anyone so young can really feel those words.

Then again, people are all different and things may be more clear to others than they are to you. In the end, what happens, happens and we'll live through it.

[Sirrus]

Socrates was said to be the wisest man ever because he was able to realize, internalize and proclaim with full authority "People say I am wise. I am not wise".

I can understand completely the disposition the feel like you've got the whole world figured out at 16. I felt the exact same way. I almost feel that way now, and probably would if I didn't have the ability to step back, look to the past and say "in five years I'm going to think myself now a fool".

It's not an absolute, but you have to realize that time will prove yourself wrong on this one.