My girl conundrum.

[Anti-Block]

Okay so, I've gotten to thinking recently, and I noticed some odd things.
let me preface this: I've never had a girlfriend, I've never kissed a girl, and I'm a diagnosed anxiety sufferer.
So, I've had my eye on this one particular girl; she's pretty, she's intelligent, she actually has a compatible personality with my own, but even with the incentives to try and strike up a conversation with her, not only am I nervous. I just ... don't care. It's this inner conflict where I want to talk to her, yet I feel oddly apathetic, like I just feel like "what's the point"... I actively am trying to convince myself to have drive and like, whenever I make her laugh I feel good, but I'm practically rationalizing a situation that's yet to happen at this point.

Basically, I need some advice, either just simple go get 'er stuff or maybe sometimes more deep. Thanks

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[Tokerovin]

Well, if you like her, let her know.

Don't feel like nothing good can come out of it.

Remember that nearly anything is possible and things rarely play out the way we expect in our logical minds.

[Anti-Block]

I know that's the logical solution but I can't get it to work in my head.

[Teneksi]

she's pretty, she's intelligent, she actually has a compatible personality with my own

I just ... don't care. It's this inner conflict

I know that's the logical solution but I can't get it to work in my head.

maybe you're gay and don't realize it

[Anti-Block]

figured that was coming

I'm secure in my loveuality, and I live in loving Berkeley for cryin' out loud so I would know if I was gay, I defo wouldn't be in denial.

[lordician]

I know this situation because a friend of mine recently had the same and asked me.
What i advise is, figure out what you want yourself first.
Do you really want to go for her?
Seeing you are thinking: "What's the point?", it might be useful to start off with figuring out what you want.

Then if you decide that you really want to go for it, don't just throw it to her, nor don't only help her like purely a friend, because the latter will get you in the friendzone and the former will just get you in an awkward situation.
Being friends with someone you like is not a bad idea though, as long as you don't just keep it that way/don't fall in too deep into the friendzone.
Being closer with the one you like will hopefully get you to know her better and stuff.

That's as far as i can tell right now, though i am not really the best of advisers around since i never had a girlfriend myself.
I tried stuff though and i learned from it going wrong.
Hopefully you can use this and the best of luck.
Women are very hard to understand in general, keep that in mind. ;)

[Planr]

What are your motives for wanting a relationship with this girl? What end result do you have in mind? Is having a relationship with this girl going to fulfill you?



Don't answer those questions, I want you to think about them.

[eldruF]

My advice, don't take advice from anyone on this forum unless they're 16/17+ and they don't wear a fedora.

[Steve5452]

So you just can't get up the courage to talk to her? Can't really help with that, just try to say very small things to her every once in a while and maybe you won't be so scared to talk to her. Like, "Do we have a test today?" or, "What was number five?". Small stuff like that.

[Cassord²]

i think you should stick it in her pooper just loving go for it. Go up to her and ask her on a date without thinking about it and pusillanimous individual-footing around it. Be a man, Anti-Block.

[GhostStar]

ya man, i know, its hard. but you just have to break through and ask her. go see catching fire with her, or the hobbit or something.

[SirLancelot7]

"What are you doing this Saturday?"  "Would you like to go on a date to ________"

[DrenDran]

ya man, i know, its hard. but you just have to break through and ask her. go see catching fire with her, or the hobbit or something.

are movies really great first dates?
I mean you don't get to talk to them at all. Or even see them.

My advice, don't take advice from anyone on this forum unless they're 16/17+ and they don't wear a fedora.

Take this mans advice if you want an aborted basterd child.
I'm thinking of the right person, right?

[Otis Da HousKat]

You don't want to kiss a girl anyway. They don't brush their teeth and it's gross.