Normally I do just start my own server. But sometimes when I plan not to play for long (which is happening way more often now), I just want to hop on another server instead. But, sadly, I think I will just be doing less of both now, since it seems the few servers that aren't infested with mods galore, are like 1 in 4 chance they will not be what the server title says. And by the time I found a good server, I wouldn't be in the mood to play anymore.
Oh, and the server I was on was a person I know well, but they did a thing I don't like, and when I hinted it, they seemed to just not care, so I left. I don't think they even bothered to at least change the server name so people would know ahead of time.
Either way, I guess it's not too big of a deal. I really don't spend much time on this game anyway, as I have better things to do (not saying it's a bad game) with my life than spend all day on a video game.