I have never felt this stuffty

[BubbaGum]

You can't rely on other people to be happy, It doesn't work. You have to be content on your own before you can live in a healthy relationship. You were used and you liked it because you were tired of feeling lonely and down on yourself.

Best piece of advice ever
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You can't rely on other people to be happy, It doesn't work. You have to be content on your own before you can live in a healthy relationship. You were used and you liked it because you were tired of feeling lonely and down on yourself.

I disagree completely. As a strong extrovert, being alone is just as bad as being slowly stabbed with needles.

That said, I can deal with being single. I just can't live without other people.

[Twerky]

OP it's good that you wanted to satisfy others but there are limits, i.e. letting yourself get dressed up and stuff wth?
The only person you'd want to satisfy right now is your dad, he could help you if you tell him how you feel as you both feel the same atm.

Screw the fake stuff and go real.

[Destroyer]

stuff that is terrible.

Well, for the food poisoning, I'd say it is just crappy luck. Food poisoning sucks, I've had the stomach flu, it is horrible. But you can't be afraid to eat because of it. Twice in 2 months is bad but it is just dumb luck. That doesn't mean you are going to have it all the time. You are going to give yourself worse health issues by not eating.

Moving on to the topic of your dad. It sounds like he is genuinely sorry for how he reacted. I would contact him some way if I were you. Though it may be hard, maybe the best thing for you to do is just talk with him and admit some of the things you told us in this topic. He may have yelled at you but it seems like he still loves you, and it sounds like you care about him as well. Even if you can't talk things out with him, just don't let him feel like he is completely alone.

Finally, your ex is a bitch and you need to just cut her the forget out of your life. Dressing you up and putting makeup on you? She has a loving mental problem she needs to address. You don't need people like that in life. Now I've had some crappy girlfriends but yours sounds like the worst human being ever. To be honest I would have cut her off immediately after she made out with another guy. I know though how when you love someone it is hard to imagine life without them. But trust me, you will be better off with as little contact as possible from her. It may not seem like it but you will realize it.

Honestly man, all in all the best piece of advice I can give you is don't dwell on the pointless stuff. Things will change. If their is one thing I've learned you can never be fully prepared for what will happen next. I've lost people in my life who i felt have meant the absolute world to me but I'm still here doing just fine. I've been totally down before in life and felt like nothing would ever change, but I hung in there and I can safely say it is amazing just what can happen. Almost anything can be turned around. You are young, you have plenty of time to find a good girl that actually treats you right. Don't worry about all this stuff now, because even though you feel totally lost, everything will change one day. Then you will look back and realize how dumb it was to let this small stuff get you down.

[}]Crazy[{]

heres how you just ,,let it out''
when i draw, i mostly express my feelings,if you draw all grey and moody,

you can express yourself without words,
if you wanna feel any better, you have to use bright, noticable colors to fit your personality.

and about that bad gf, stand up to the facts, tell  her shes going too far if she says ,. i do what i want''
break up. at once.

talk to someone at school that you
actually like. i get bullied by starfishs, boys at that, all the time, cause im american in germany. you should be happy YOUR not a bully, it mostly is because your feeling stuff uncomfortable at home, which you are, meaning you can withstand this situation.
gather your thoughts about the situation and tackle it.

[DrenDran]

Rule no. 5 inbound

Yeah this is fine.

Jesus christ OP, that sounds horrible.

[Nonnel]

wow what a bitch

[Incompatible]

I'm not gonna say I know how you feel, but I want to help in some form.

It sounds like that bitch and the people she screws around with are not a desirable group to be around. Try joining a club like a few people said. Try a sport, or join band like I did (if you have it available). It'll get you friends to hang around with. The important part is to distance yourself from those who are toxic to you. It's not always easy out in the world, and I'm sure you know that.

Good luck to you, OP. Message me if you ever wanna talk.

[Cargøn]

Advice blob, feel free to disregard it. Food poisoning is something that just kind of happens, nothing can really be done so just keep your fingers crossed. Your father might be fishing for sympathy but let him know that despite the things that happen he's still your father and you still love him for making you who you are (you can revise/change that and if it isn't true i recommend just doing it through your teeth). Your ex will eventually reap what she sows, even if it is having to be herself. My personal strategy with girls I like is as follows:
1: Like girl
2: Make no moves
3: Question why I made no moves
4: Cry
5: Rekindle and Repeat
But you might want a different strategy. Honestly most of that is moot at your age and mine but if it really rips you up then go for it lover boy.
For now, ignore most of it and try to find something that makes you happy or laugh a bit.
Things will get better, even if they have to get worse before that.
also if this advice is stuff then yeah just ignore it and do your thing you wild stallion

[SWAT One]

I'll tell ya what buddy.  There are two sides to anxiety.  1) The side where it's almost impossible to muster up the strength to stand against it, and 2) the side where you realize that once you stand up against it, you realize the anxiety itself is constructed by your mind, and that the issues, when handled right, were not as bad as your mind made them out to be.

I'll try to address all that you said in the OP.

Regarding your dad, it's clear that he's grieving the fact that you and he are not on good terms.  At least from what I saw in the OP, it makes it seem like he loves you and that you both treated each other like stuff.  Since you stood up to him first, your dad probably sees you as uncompromising.  If you can find it in your heart to apologize for what you've said, you should invite him out to some place, buy him dinner, and talk about it.  This will not only help repair your relationship, but show him that you want his fatherly love to reach you.

As far as your girlfriend goes.  GTFO.  Don't deal with that bitch.  Let her deal with her problems.  If you feel any pity, then tell her that it's sad to watch her sink into such a demanding and unsatisfying lifestyle.  (Or however you see it.  This is just my perspective.)  If you stay with her, she'll take her problems with you.  It's clear that her shameful lifestyle has already done you in, so just get out and don't deal with it.  If they come over to harass you again, loving tell them off and threaten to call the police.  If they're harassing you, they need to GTFO.

I disagree completely. As a strong extrovert, being alone is just as bad as being slowly stabbed with needles.

That said, I can deal with being single. I just can't live without other people.

I also agree with you, and I'm a strong introvert.  Really the only thing that will make people happy* is to be selfless and forgiving and be with selfless and forgiving people.  Though I need alone time, I cannot be happy without interacting with someone.

*Using a more "inner satisfaction" kind of deal.  Like the kind of feeling where you see the most beautiful sunrise in your life and you feel amazing inside.

As for the food poisoning, just use caution, man.  Don't leave things out, refrigerate or heat them outside of the bounds of 40°F to 135°F.  If you went out to a place that gave you food poisoning, just don't go there.  Or if you're allergic to something or think you may be, avoid eating that.

[Victor Von Doom]

I really don't want to steal your thread, but I don't want to make a thread of it's own about this. I feel rather stuffty currently too. I should really feel ontop of the world but I don't. I got together with this girl at school and all, she's perfect for me and stuff, just that we don't get to see eachother for long, we can't do jack stuff outside of 10 minutes at break and 25 minutes at lunch because her grandparents don't think she's mature enough to date but she's damn sure mature enough, we're not gonna escalate anytime soon but I fear if i even ATTEMPTED to confront them stuff would go south and it'd be shot. I make wonderful grades mostly, but just the lack of actually having friends rather being the ass end of every joke ever or just being looked down upon and treated like a loving kindergartner. Makes me feel unwanted and worthless, practically i am. I can't do anything physical to a normal degree, not even because it's a medical issue its the fact i'm a fatass and sit around on the computer all god damn day eating stuff and drinking soda. I've said multiple times i'll stop the stuff and lose weight and actually go get a life but I DON"T, I never do, I can't! I just want it to stop, all of it. I want to be happy. but it's just so much harder than it seems. I just need advice. Anything, help.

Tl;Dr don't be a friend.

[SWAT One]

I really don't want to steal your thread, but I don't want to make a thread of it's own about this. I feel rather stuffty currently too. I should really feel ontop of the world but I don't. I got together with this girl at school and all, she's perfect for me and stuff, just that we don't get to see eachother for long, we can't do jack stuff outside of 10 minutes at break and 25 minutes at lunch because her grandparents don't think she's mature enough to date but she's damn sure mature enough, we're not gonna escalate anytime soon but I fear if i even ATTEMPTED to confront them stuff would go south and it'd be shot. I make wonderful grades mostly, but just the lack of actually having friends rather being the ass end of every joke ever or just being looked down upon and treated like a loving kindergartner. Makes me feel unwanted and worthless, practically i am. I can't do anything physical to a normal degree, not even because it's a medical issue its the fact i'm a fatass and sit around on the computer all god damn day eating stuff and drinking soda. I've said multiple times i'll stop the stuff and lose weight and actually go get a life but I DON"T, I never do, I can't! I just want it to stop, all of it. I want to be happy. but it's just so much harder than it seems. I just need advice. Anything, help.

Tl;Dr don't be a friend.

Tbh I haven't had any problems with weight so I can't help you very much there.  For now Ima say just watch your intake.  Record everything you eat over a 168-hour period without changing your habits, and then map it out, thinking of things you can do to replace some of the things you eat and drink.  Replacing soda with water has helped me before, and likewise, I've felt fantastic for just eating a lot of fruits instead of snacks like chips or crackers.

As far as the situation with your love life, how old are you and her?

[Victor Von Doom]

As far as the situation with your love life, how old are you and her?

It being a highschool relationship and me being 14 and her 15, I know it's not gonna last but I want the experience and I just want to feel not so alone for once.

[BubbaGum]

i feel this thread title so bad omg

[SWAT One]

It being a highschool relationship and me being 14 and her 15, I know it's not gonna last but I want the experience and I just want to feel not so alone for once.

Experience meaning dating or love?

Either way, even if you and she are mature, the grandparents have full reason and right to do that.  15 seems too young to me, even though by my personal standards, I would say 1 year too young.  I mean when I was 8, I thought being 10 was mature and so on.  I'm 19 and I don't even think 26 is mature yet– that varies per person.

You could always talk to her grandparents in a respectful manner.  Don't argue, just present your case, and take what they say to you as their answer, respect it, and just follow from there.  A good way to start is just to introduce yourself, ask them if they can spare some time, and then say that you've been interested in her for a while and that you want their permission to date her.  Doing this shows them that you are a responsible fellow.  Even if they say no, you are likely to be on their good side.