in kind of a rut here (need advice)

[hillkill]

so my best friend and i have been friends for 10 years. he talked to me on facebook today and told me that he is gay and wanted me to know. i was stunned, and still am. i feel extremely uncomfortable talking to him now, and i haven't said anything since i just replied "ok". it seems like the whole way i think of him has changed. i don't think i'm homophobic, even though it grosses me out. can someone give me some advice?

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[TheABELBOTO]

if you feel uncomfortable with him now, then you're not friends.

[Foxscotch]

i don't think i'm homophobic, even though it grosses me out.

lol

anyway you should tell him that you want to stop talking to him. he doesn't need someone like you in his life

[Maxwell.]

well did you feel he was coming onto you before? it shouldn't matter now if it didn't matter back then

[Clone v.117]

Just be cool about it, he's not hitting on you he just trusts you and wants you to know about himself, you dont need to make a big deal out of it or anything.
Whatever floats eachother boats man, just so happens some people's boats are floated by roosters.

[hillkill]

i always thought homophobic was when you're outright outright rude about it

well did you feel he was coming onto you before?

no.

[Lego lad]

stick it in his pooper

[Maxwell.]

no.

then you can still be friends as usual and not bring any attention to it

[Jacksaunt]

A similar thing happened to me. It helps to just push through it. He worked up the courage to tell you so he's obviously very confident in your friendship, and your support will help him a ton.

If you just start ignoring him that's not going to be very good at all for either of you.

[hillkill]

i don't know how to react to it. i cant lie to him and say it grosses me out because he won't be friends with me. if i lie and say i feel fine about it, i'll feel that guilt forever

[Ipquarx]

Be happy that he's deemed you trustworthy enough to share the information with you, and no, it doesn't mean he's going to start acting any differently than normal, so just go on being friends with him like nothing ever happened

Chances are it won't affect anything

[otto-san]

the important thing to note is that he was always gay and the only diff is that you know about it now

[Dreams_Of_Cheese]

it's not he's gay for you or something. it's not all that different from being friends with a girl, not awkward unless you make it awkward

[hillkill]

he said he didnt realize it until recently.

[Dreams_Of_Cheese]

if your worried about him being gay around you just make sure he knows you aren't interested in him
hes still the same guy. dont be weird about it