Torgdor is just upset cuz he poopoopeepee in his trousers I think the whole issue about the autism thing is, it's just dead horse beating, it isn't cool or making a point anymore so just stop using it.
The clique issue, I only say, "that damn clique" as a joke now when people try to make complaints about nal, c, or rb2k.
Sugar? I have no experience on the issue, but from the sounds of it, her behavior is more than a little bit off the rails.