Im okay with jokes being made about stuff rom hundred years ago, but nothing less. There still people around who were alive at the time when things like 9/11 and pearl harbor happened. Just because you can't relate to those events doesn't mean other people can't. If you think otherwise I dare you to walk up to someone who lost family to the Twin Towers/Pentagon attack and look them in the eyes and a 9/11 joke.
Also for those you who claim to make these jokes as an excuse to "cope", you are also full of stuff. It's true that police, emts, firemen, doctors, soldiers make dark jokes such as these. However chances are you guys are none of those things and don't have to deal with dead people every day.