this is kinda weird because i'm not going to say demiloveuality isn't a real thing. the Tunglers define it as only having a loveual attraction to someone unless you have a strong emotional connection which 100% exists. saying demiloveual is weird because it's not technically a loveuality but instead preferring not to have love right off the bat
i don't think it's typically a "preference" so much as just a ""behavioural phenomenon"" if you want to say it in really weird terms. it just appears to be an accurate description of how their mind
naturally works, rather than a conscious decision on their part
as for calling it a "loveuality" i'm pretty sure people place it on the aloveuality spectrum and not the hetero/homo spectrum, which is an entire can of beans that i'm not qualified to talk about in detail because i'm a cis straight white male and i haven't checked my privilege today (or something like that)
and i absolutely understand all this sounding bonkers and stupid because it definitely sounds that way if that's not what you know and it's not how you work