my mother got in a car accident

[sir dooble]

Last week my mom got pulled over so my grandpa had to drive the car home. He's half paralyzed so he kept swerving (effectively getting us pulled over) and when we got to the dangerous part he put us in a ditch but was able to pull out before we hit the bad part. The entire time I just kept going 'left, left, left LEFT LEFT LEFT'

Can you drive? Maybe you should have in that instance, even without insurance. Sounds better to be financially at risk than physically at risk from having someone who is no longer fit to drive behind the wheel.

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[Alyx Vance]

Can you drive? Maybe you should have in that instance, even without insurance. Sounds better to be financially at risk than physically at risk from having someone who is no longer fit to drive behind the wheel.

I don't have a license so I wasn't able to take the risk, although my mom specifically said that worse comes worse to let me drive and I was ready to take the wheel. I wanted to trade him spots after we left town but he has to walk with a walker so making him switch seats in 10F weather would be a richard move, other than that one instance with the ditch he did pretty good, I can't hold it against him considering we were on a road with no lighting what so ever.

[Maxwell.]

I can't believe you are actually going to just accept she does this. To help you understand what were looking at, imagine you are in an abusive relationship and we are trying to get you out of it, thats what it feels like

I'm not, I'm gonna keep telling them both constantly after this to sort this stuff out but I don't want to get pulled away from my mother if it's the last thing that happens

she already has a lot of points on her license, which is close to being revoked and at this point I'm really hoping for at least that

[Siren]

I'm not, I'm gonna keep telling them both constantly after this to sort this stuff out but I don't want to get pulled away from my mother if it's the last thing that happens

she already has a lot of points on her license, which is close to being revoked and at this point I'm really hoping for at least that

Im glad that you are actually doing something, your dad seems to be concerned and you should tell him yours aswell, he probably has alot more persuasion power than you do

[MoltenKitten]

oh and my dad has gone to lengths to stop her from going over 60MPH, including opening the car bonnet and tweaking it so the car does not go over 60MPH, my mother got extremely pissed over this so my dad had to undo the changes so it goes 100MPH again

How pissed?
Loud yelling or might start a genocide crusade?

[Maxwell.]

How pissed?
Loud yelling or might start a genocide crusade?

loud yelling

[Alyx Vance]

loud yelling

Man up and get onto her for acting like a child. I have to do that with my uncle all the time because he likes to yell and act like a child (even though he's like 43) one day I had to tell him to go to his room because he was yelling and threatening people.

[sir dooble]

This may not be entirely useful in this situation, but if you wish to report your mother anonymously for dangerous driving, you can via CrimeStoppers.

You can anonymously report her dangerous driving, giving accurate information.
CrimeStoppers will then forward this onto the relevant authorities, mainly your Police.

I don't know the end result of that, but it could be that your mother is questioned about her driving.
Potentially she could recieve a fine/points on her license, but I'm unsure how this would work coming from an anonymous report.
At the very least, I think she could recieve some warning about her driving.


At any rate, the website is useful for reporting crimes anonymously.

[MoltenKitten]

loud yelling

Exactly what Alyx said, y'all need to grow a spine and she needs to grow up.

[Maxwell.]

Man up and get onto her for acting like a child. I have to do that with my uncle all the time because he likes to yell and act like a child (even though he's like 43) one day I had to tell him to go to his room because he was yelling and threatening people.

Exactly what Alyx said, y'all need to grow a spine and she needs to grow up.

the thing is though we yell at each other all the time, I am not afraid to yell at her it's just she does not listen

she has the most authority in this house, but the one thing I could do in overrulling her is if she moves house, I'm going to not go with her and move in with my dad it's an extreme inconvenience to be half a mile from any bus stop or my dads other house (and by the way they are still married and happily together) she's still on THAT case and it's also extremely annoying

[MoltenKitten]

the thing is though we yell at each other all the time, I am not afraid to yell at her it's just she does not listen

That is your problem, you are trying to fight fire with fire and just making a bigger fire. Take a calm approach instead.

[Rally]

There, you guys crash at 30mph. Here, we manage to not crash at a reckless 160km/h with fog and slippery roads.

I think I'd rather get mangled in a car accident at 30mph than spend a single day in Argentina

[Maxwell.]

That is your problem, you are trying to fight fire with fire and just making a bigger fire. Take a calm approach instead.

the only way of getting through to her is with yelling, because believe me I do try but I'm laughed at if I take the calm approach

[MoltenKitten]

There, you guys crash at 30mph. Here, we manage to not crash at a reckless 160km/h with fog and slippery roads.

Why would you brag about failed Self Delete attempts?

the only way of getting through to her is with yelling, because believe me I do try both ways often enough and they end up either being laughed at or pointless yelling

Force her to watch a ton of car wreck videos, she will either stop speeding or stop driving entirely.

[Maxwell.]

Force her to watch a ton of car wreck videos, she will either stop speeding or stop driving entirely.

she is 59, she has seen plenty of it already and I get the strong feeling that this won't work and will just cause an awkward situation

what I'm gonna do is just yell at her everytime I see her going over 60 on the roads and force her to slow down every time I'm in the car with her (which is almost never sadly)