thoughts on polyamory

[C-Zech Chrome Ind.]

yeah like in bad grandpa. good movie 👍

That was a funny movie.

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[otto-san]

i don't think it helps much to try and convince him that he's just confused or doesn't actually know how he feels, cus he knows himself better than anyone else, and it'd be condescending and insensitive to say he just doesn't know any better, or that he'll "correct" himself eventually. if everyone in the relationship is aware and consenting, there's no reason why a relationship like this can't work. it's obviously not for everyone, and it's certainly not conventional, but i don't see why it wouldn't work out.

of course it's all just chemicals making you feel anyway right ??

also check out this vido (the more relevant bit starts at around 5:43)

[lordician]

of course it's all just chemicals making you feel anyway right ??

I couldn't help but laugh at this.
Nice reference.

[Placid]

I guess if you didn't have any feelings for them it would be fine? but do you really think that's gonna be the case in every relationship you have?

forget no, this is so wrong. it's so easy to get forced out of a relationship just due to circumstances. i was with a guy for 4 months this year but we couldn't keep going because he's in the air force and got restationed. it's not like we suddenly stopped having feelings for each other, but i seriously can't do long distance as a student and he understood so we broke it off.

oh, and @OP i don't really think i could do polyamory either. figuring out one person is enough

[Foxscotch]

forget no, this is so wrong. it's so easy to get forced out of a relationship just due to circumstances. i was with a guy for 4 months this year but we couldn't keep going because he's in the air force and got restationed. it's not like we suddenly stopped having feelings for each other, but i seriously can't do long distance as a student and he understood so we broke it off.

and... unless you don't care about him, I'm assuming it made you sad that you had to split up, yes?

[c]

cus he knows himself better than anyone else

why does everyone say this. it's not true in the slightest

[otto-san]

why does everyone say this. it's not true in the slightest

explain, because it seems incredibly counter-intuitive to me. you can't tell anyone more than you already know about yourself on some level, so how could anyone ever know more about you than you? you're the only source of that information. psychologists can prod and figure out rationale behind certain behaviors, but nobody but you can know everything about yourself.

[c]

explain, because it seems incredibly counter-intuitive to me. you can't tell anyone more than you already know about yourself on some level, so how could anyone ever know more about you than you? you're the only source of that information. psychologists can prod and figure out rationale behind certain behaviors, but nobody but you can know everything about yourself.

have you ever had a family member point out something you do as a habit or a certain way you do something, that you never noticed until they said something about it? the human brain is pretty unreliable.

[otto-san]

have you ever had a family member point out something you do as a habit or a certain way you do something, that you never noticed until they said something about it?

sure, but can those incidental behaviors really be considered the full picture? there's a lot more to people than just how they act.

[sir dooble]

have you ever had a family member point out something you do as a habit or a certain way you do something, that you never noticed until they said something about it?

A habit you have isn't the same as the way you think/feel.

Yeah, someone else can know more about the way you behave, but not how you think