Author Topic: [Blogland] Relationship status: Official [The end?]  (Read 18037 times)

For some reason a lot of girls dumps the good guys to be or to get back with the starfishs, that happens a lot, I really can't understand why either.
Largely due to emotionally based reasoning. Girls (usually) are controlled more by their emotions, whereas guys are (usually) more susceptible to rational thinking. Not saying either is bad - they both have their ups and downs - but it does change the way we view relationships, especially stressed ones. Emotions are liable to extreme fluctuations, so to us guys, it might not make sense, but for a girl, who may be rationally thinking, "This is a bad idea," their emotions in many cases will still reign supreme. So if there was any longing, regret, or misattributed feelings, a girl might get back with her ex - even if they mistreated her.

Note: this does not apply to all girls, nor to all guys.

One thing that has me worried is how she actually feels towards her boyfriend. They went from a hissy verbally abusive breakup to somehow being back in a relationship all right under my nose. Probably at least gonna try to put some logic out there as to how that's possibly a good idea considering everything I've ever heard about him has been negative.
abusive relationships are difficult to get out of, no matter how much you want to. that probably wasn't the first time she's made an attempt. they'll say something mean and you'll leave, then they'll come begging you to get back with them the next day. abusive partners often make sure that you rely on them as well, which can make it that much harder to leave for good


what do u mean by fooled around. this is the only detail i need

Here's a couple things that may help you that I've learned and I'm always working on

- dont talk about her ex with her. thats a good way to get into the friendzone
- dont shut down. communication is key to establishing and maintaining a relationship and my shutting down and lying about the problem usually won't make it better
- careful of the red flags. being in a relationship with her may seem like a good idea to you right now but you have to notice the red flags (like her weird behavior breaking up and kissing a guy and being back with her boyfriend) its not like a huge red flag, mostly just weird
- try not to get too angry about her kissing another guy while shes single. i know you think something is forming between you but you gotta remember you arent a couple yet
- you gotta make some moves if you dont wanna get friendzoned and want to pursue a real relationship

New developments: So this morning, one of my managers messaged me on Facebook asking if I worked at walgreens, which I was and am on break right now, so she just said "Thanks never mind". My guess is she was asking if I'd be available to work drive thru tonight, and I knew the one girl was scheduled then. Thinking she was getting out of work, I wondered what she could possibly be doing.

On my way to walgreens, I glanced over at Hardee's and her VW wasn't there, so I assumed she wasn't there either. Then came my lunch break, and woo what a disaster that was. I drove over there and found her VW parked there, so my spirits lifted a little (but not that much). Walking in, everything was hectic. She was nowhere in sight but I got my food order in and turned around to get a drink. Behind me, I heard my GM's voice greeting me.

For some reason, my GM followed me to the beverage bar. Somewhat concerned, I started making small talk about stuff about my schedule, but she was acting really weird. "How about you come have a Mello Yello in my office?" Thinking something bad was happening or I could be in trouble, I followed her behind the counter decked in my Walgreens attire as she opened the office door.

In front of me was the one girl with tears just pouring down her face. She latched onto me sobbing saying things like, "I missed you" and "Today's been horrible". I just held her looking between her and the GM asking what was going on. Apparently, her dad was trying to sell her car (under his name) without talking to her first. She wouldn't give him the keys since it was her car and all, and she said her dad went crazy and grabbed her by the throat. He yelled in her face and talked to her like she was trash before throwing her against her bed causing her nose to bleed before backing off.

At this point, my jaw was so tight that now my teeth hurt still. They called the police and they took him away saying he can't be around his family at all for two months. She also told me about her boyfriend saying she simply tried to get the relationship back on track but it didn't work, so she's apparently still single now.

keep chasing tornados; not tail

did someone say that already

The thing that flashes warning signs to me is how common it seems that she should break down in hysterics and cry unconsolably at work.

Does she just happen to wear her emotions on her sleeve, or is it perhaps a bit of an attention thing going on?


It's difficult, and almost pointless to judge a person over stories on the internet, but if she is attention-seeking (which the breakdowns, on-off relationship and telling you about her kissing guys sounds like it could tie into), then she could be difficult to predict and may cause you more drama than you'd like.

The thing that flashes warning signs to me is how common it seems that she should break down in hysterics and cry unconsolably at work.

Does she just happen to wear her emotions on her sleeve, or is it perhaps a bit of an attention thing going on?


It's difficult, and almost pointless to judge a person over stories on the internet, but if she is attention-seeking (which the breakdowns, on-off relationship and telling you about her kissing guys sounds like it could tie into), then she could be difficult to predict and may cause you more drama than you'd like.

The thing that flashes warning signs to me is how common it seems that she should break down in hysterics and cry unconsolably at work.

Does she just happen to wear her emotions on her sleeve, or is it perhaps a bit of an attention thing going on?


It's difficult, and almost pointless to judge a person over stories on the internet, but if she is attention-seeking (which the breakdowns, on-off relationship and telling you about her kissing guys sounds like it could tie into), then she could be difficult to predict and may cause you more drama than you'd like.

She does cry at work a lot but mainly just because she's a delicate person in terms of emotions. One angry customer can ruin her entire night.

I returned to Hardee's after my shift was over and she was still there, so we talked about stuff and sat at a table with some other people and laughed and stuff, with them making a few jokes at our expense. Almost had a heart attack when she grabbed my phone because I thought she'd go through stuff where I've talked about her to other people, but all she did was change virtually every screen on my phone to have a picture of herself on it.

this sucks man, hope it works out for you.

Obviously I have no way of knowing this but is it possible she got back with her ex for that short amount of time because of tension with her dad? It's possible but unlikely that this incident was the start of friction between them.

Tell her about chemical reactions.

Obviously I have no way of knowing this but is it possible she got back with her ex for that short amount of time because of tension with her dad? It's possible but unlikely that this incident was the start of friction between them.

I don't know. I met her dad once and he seemed like an okay guy. He's in his 60s I think and may have been a veteran. All I know is he flipped his lid and hurt her and it made me really mad for a few hours, and I'm glad she doesn't have to be around him.

I don't really know why she hooked back with her ex. One or both of them probably just tried to see if the spark was really dead or not but she told me she cut it off because of their previous problems and she wants more freedom than being tied to one person.

Tell her about chemical reactions.

Thank you Tony. Can't believe I never thought of that lol.

Thank you Tony. Can't believe I never thought of that lol.

Potentially a human can live no more than 200 years.

The planet is like what almost 5 billion years old?
 
Better get to having love with as many people as you can instead of worrying about that 1 person. Your life is short.
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