Author Topic: blogland: school, depression, and autism  (Read 969 times)

a tiny bit of backstory: I'm in the "grey zone" for autism and I have ADD and I'm taking Ritalin for it.

so.. I don't know how to preface this but I can't handle going to school irl anymore. I always come home depressed and in a stuffty mood and I've been taking onto food and starving myself to avoid those thoughts. and I really like my teachers (my math teacher is a loving BEAST at teaching) but Im having trouble bringing myself out of bed to go to school, keeping in mind that I probably sleep at 12 and wake up at 6 am, and recently I've been having really loving bad dreams and suicidal thoughts and I feel under so much pressure that I don't want to tell anyone about it as well.
so..what should I do? my school is near the top in ratings and I barely got in, and I love it there but so far im super stressed and depressed..

i need help but every psychologist that I've gone to can't help me at all and every time I go they just recommend some bullstuff program here, some bullstuff program there, "oh this will help you reform your social life"..and it really doesn't help.. i never developed social skills or even empathy, and I don't know what to do with my life anymore...nobody at my school likes me and most of the people on here don't like me either. idk anymore

If your profile is accurate, you still got high school to worry about. You will have plenty of opportunities to socialize but it is good that you're recognizing that you need to. But sometimes that sort of desperation for human interaction can be sensed by others. Not saying you should give it up, but many friendships come naturally.

It's important though that you get support from people. If you have someone to talk to about your feelings like your family or a therapist, or even online friends, that can be a great outlet. The people around you want you to succeed and feel well so please tell if you're feeling bad or suicidal. Sometimes schools are accommodating for those kind of issues.

It's good that you care about your school work and enjoy it, but it's important that you take care of yourself.

You might have executive dysfunction or seasonal depression, or both (like me). Since I went through the same thing at your age I'm not going to suggest that you do what the psychiatrists are telling you will work (because it won't and you know that it won't) but I certainly would advise talking with someone who can offer physical reassurance in response and make you feel relaxed emotionally; for me that person was my mother but I respect that not everyone is lucky enough to have such reassuring parent-figures in their life.

I understand that it can be extremely lonely when you're in that kind of position, but you definitely can't just give up on having social interactions; If you make a habit of actually talking with people you're grouped up with, for example, that little bit of interaction can go a long way towards changing people's perceptions of you. However, the most important thing you can/need to do is to be self-confident, even if it's just as a barrier to protect yourself from yourself.

I have Asperger's Syndrome, I dropped out of school at age 12. I'm now 22 years old and, after working hard for the past 4 years to work my way up through the qualifications ladder, I'm at university studying for a joint-honours degree in Japanese and English in order to fulfil my dream of teaching English in Japan. I have more friends than I know what to do with, I live on my own and have a healthy social life. I defy most every identifying label of Asperger's Syndrome despite how much they affected me when I was in my early teens and yet I retain everything about my Asperger's Syndrome that makes me who I am.

No matter what; I am completely and utterly infallible because I can do exactly what I want to do and succeed at it.


Of course, I recognise that not everyone can be me and that I can't always prescribe the best advice for every individual. However, I do believe that self-confidence is the most powerful thing that people like us can posses.

executive dysfunction
read as erectile dysfunction

also im pretty sure that nearly everybody is in the grey zone for autism because the autism definition is broad as forget. don't let that stuff weigh you down or define your social interaction
« Last Edit: October 13, 2016, 10:52:00 AM by Gytyyhgfffff »

Whatever it is, don't listen to people who say that it's just in your head. A nice quote from Dumbledore brings this: “Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?”

I know that's just one of the stupidest things to say to anyone with possible mental disorders.


I can relate to this, because the beginning of school of last year and this summer. I would tell the story later, but all I can say here is try to talk to people who you can relate to and try and make with friends them.

As someone who has gone through the exact same thing as you, my advice is to stop taking the medications. Concerta and Ridalin have side effects of depression, antisocial behavior, and loss of appetite.
« Last Edit: October 13, 2016, 10:39:00 PM by Planr »

so a bit of a update I guess
I've stopped taking Ritalin and im talking to my parents about it, and homeschooling as well because I need to move at my own pace and I love working alone. honestly thank you all
my moods improved a bit but I still don't est breakfast (no time for it, wake up at 7 and leave for school at 7:20) but I'm trying to fit everything in
thanks, again.