Are You A Philanthropist Or A Misanthropist?

[thegoodperry]

if you're a misanthropist it probably means you feel as if you're getting nothing out of the human race, despite the fact that you drive on human built roads, eat at human built restaurants and play video games made by fellow humans. this whole 'all for self' mindset is completely unwarranted because the reason you get to enjoy such luxuries is because humans have been perfecting and raising the standard of living for millions of years, with your generation in mind.

as a person raised in a black family i can say that we dont all hate white people or blame them for our problems. there are various institutions that are built to support at risk and minority families and we take advantage of that as much as possible and we're very grateful because it was basically white people that put these plans in place. theres no sense directing unwarranted hatred towards people, especially the people who hold the most power in numbers lol

anyways if you express hate you'll get it back tenfold. maybe try thinking of everyone around you (including yoursef) as cogs in a huge machine and adopt the community mentality. help people around you maybe? volunteer? talk to people? be nice? etc. when you do a lot of that you'll start to notice that the community gives back

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[Aplem]

If you want an honest answer, it's because misanthropy is an unhealthy coping mechanism to a lack of feeling of control in life. That's essentially it without wandering into armchair psychologist territory.

But you're mistaken. Some will use misanthropy as a coping mechanism, yes. However I have my life in a metaphorical "complete control" where the things I can help, I will help. It's where I feel most people should hopefully strive to be at. Misanthropist or Philanthropist alike.

if you're a misanthropist it probably means you feel as if you're getting nothing out of the human race, despite the fact that you drive on human built roads, eat at human built restaurants and play video games made by fellow humans. this whole 'all for self' mindset is completely unwarranted because the reason you get to enjoy such luxuries is because humans have been perfecting and raising the standard of living for millions of years, with your generation in mind.

It's funny, but I prefer the silence of enjoying my time in the woods. Alone. It sort of helps to clear my mind when it comes down to the basics of survival. But as stated above by the quote, yeah it hurts to hate others when you do the things that you hate as well.

[Raoul Silva]

basics of survival.

[thegoodperry]

It's funny, but I prefer the silence of enjoying my time in the woods. Alone. It sort of helps to clear my mind when it comes down to the basics of survival. But as stated above by the quote, yeah it hurts to hate others when you do the things that you hate as well.

this is understandable. here's a cool thought: there are humans out there that are paid to protect and monitor those very woods you walk in silently to make sure that people like you can enjoy some time alone, or maybe a quiet jog in the woods. park rangers basically work all day to help protect nature and give back to the earth and ensure that others can enjoy it fully. i dont know if the woods you speak of are a national park on an actual open forest, but either way it is protected by the government to various extents

dont think about the people that hate and destroy like you described in the OP, think about the people that help and protect and make the earth a better place, and maybe try to become one of them too, because you might not like 50% of the human race for their toxic influence, but there's always another 50% that are really chill and they can't do it alone

[Aplem]

Maybe try thinking of everyone around you (including yoursef) as cogs in a huge machine and adopt the community mentality. help people around you maybe? volunteer? talk to people? be nice? etc. when you do a lot of that you'll start to notice that the community gives back

That was the exact way I did things before all this stuff started to unravel. I don't even really know what triggered my hatred towards people. Maybe times have changed and maybe you're right that I should give it another chance to let people in and as you say "get the machine working" for those around. I'm open to changing my mind and looking from a new standpoint. I think we all should be that way. Obviously it wouldn't be on a large scale but you did make me realize that even if it is one or two select people I can help, it could be beneficial. Even if I continue to think as a misanthropist. Who knows, maybe that one person could positively change my life. It still pains me to think about it though.

Thank you for the outlook perry. It was enjoyable to read your posts compared to being "attacked" by others who hold themselves higher. I said I wouldn't stuff on others opinions but holy forget do people love to throw em out.

[thegoodperry]

np. im not a therapist or anything so my words arent worth that much, but im glad i could help a little bit. there are always plenty of people here who are angry and bitter for no reason and a few here who are really cool and always want to help and stuff. just associate with the latter group and avoid the former and you'll see how your stress just dissapears

you're not wrong for thinking the way you do, everyone is entitled to directing their anger somewhere, so if being a misanthropist at heart and spending time alone helps you, do you. some people function better away from others so its not necessarily a bad thing, its just bad if you take that anger out on people, because then you destroy friendships and burn bridges and stuff

[Aplem]

np. im not a therapist or anything so my words arent worth that much, but im glad i could help a little bit. there are always plenty of people here who are angry and bitter for no reason and a few here who are really cool and always want to help and stuff. just associate with the latter group and avoid the former and you'll see how your stress just dissapears

That's the thing though, I'm not stressed. I was stressed when I did bother to be friends with people. I felt stressed to keep up relationships and hang out with people. My stress completely dissipated once I started to hate people. Once I did that, I was able to focus on my career and spending time with my wife and dog. It was once I started to really despise people that my personal meaning (or lack thereof) came clear.

Therapist or not, you made me realize something today. Beliefs can change for sure, even if it will be a long and tedious process. Not to say any of my beliefs did change today at all but I'll consider giving it a second chance though. Thanks.

[Raoul Silva]

personal meaning

[thegoodperry]

That's the thing though, I'm not stressed. I was stressed when I did bother to be friends with people. I felt stressed to keep up relationships and hang out with people. My stress completely dissipated once I started to hate people. Once I did that, I was able to focus on my career and spending time with my wife and dog. It was once I started to really despise people that my personal meaning came clear.

well im not a misanthropist so i can't necessarily relate to what you describe, but if it makes you feel better at heart then theres no reason to change. you shouldn't feel obligated to change to conform to other people's opinions. what i described is just my personal experience

anyways thank you for sharing your opinions in the op. a lot of people might misunderstand and attack you but dont let that stop you lol, feel free to express as much or as little as you like here, you'll always be a member of this community so you're always welcome!

[Aide33]

I just want to say I have no input but I enjoy reading this thread.

[thegoodperry]

thanks for your input

[Køtt]

thanks for your input

[Mardalf]

yes indeed I must agree with you in part but it is people with opinions like yours that are part of the "virus that is humanity" that you clam to hate so much

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[Drydess]

those loving clams

[IkeTheGeneric]

Also not going to personally attack you or stuff like that, but when you get back I want a bit of an elaboration on something.

There is no real reason why I hate the LGBT community other than their undying need to feel special and accepted in the world.

I'm of the mind that everyone wants to feel special and accepted. The LGBT community has been pushing for a long time to get to a point in society where non-straight people can feel accepted and normal. To claim this is an attempt to overstretch beyond that goal is frankly insulting, which is why there's a lot of back and forth.

Do you just... not want LGBT folk to be accepted in the world?