edit: ik not all trans ppl get operations but in this thread im primarily focusing on those that do
ok i really really really dont wanna sound mean or aggresive or anything so bare with me on this
so i was reading a post from an person i follow and they said to not call trans people by their old name (like if someone goes male > female and their birth name is tyler, but they wanna be called veronica now) because it could cause them discomfort or dysphoria (which is unease or unsatisfaction with life) and i had 2 thoughts on this:
1: okay, thats fair enough. everyone deserves respect
2: maybe they feel unsatisfied with life or uneasy because it reminds them that they arent really male/female, and that they are chasing something that will never be 100% authentic? (kinda sounds aggresive ik :c )
so i was thinking, what should ppl who feel trapped in the wrong body do? one side of me says that if a guy is feminine or a girl masiculine, thats fine. they can just be a feminine guy/masculine girl and thats that, no need for a surgery or anything serious. Another part of me however remembers reading that going though with the switch is the healthiest treatment for being trans, so i guess thats that? but if it causes them to go into insta sad mode anytime someone brings up the truth, maybe it isnt so great? like maybe its better to just accept the love u were born as and grow from it, but maybe trans ppl just cant? this is all coming from someone who has no idea what its like to feel trapped in the wrong body so idk.
another thought i had about it was that it kinda reminds me of ppl who spend tons of money on plastic surgery, chasing some perfect image they imagine themselves as, unable to accept they way they look instead. they damage their natural, valuable, healthy and functioning body to look and feel better about themselves, but if they just learned to accept reality then they'd be better off is that im getting at. just seems kinda... wrong? unhealthy? idk cuz again i read a study that said that the most healthy treatment is to just go thru with it so maybe im wrong but in my own opinion, a life where u accept what u are and keep it that way sounds a lot more enjoyable than changing it and sacrificing the valuables that it came with.
again i dont mean to be rude or anything and if ur trans then i dont think any less of u because of it, the thought of disrespecting someone who's just trying to exist happily genuinely disgusts me but this conumdrum has been bugging me for like the whole week :P