Some guy I know molested my gf, excuse me what the forget

[espio100]

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Whats with the last few months and why does every single last day get worse

Im going to keep it short but theres a guy, lets call him Brandon. Brandon is a creepy stereotype neckbeard. And thats not exaggerated. I really mean a 4chan neckbeard. I honestly wouldnt be suprised if he had piss bottles in his room. Anyway.
Brandon has a crush on my significant other. But like a big one. Im fine with that, as long as he doesnt try anything. But before I continue, let me list some stuff he does (while knowing she is in a relationship) so you get the picture

- Has my s/o has his phone background
- Tells her about his kinks and jack off fantasies
- Tells her about how he wants to sleep with her
- Calls her kitty, unironically
- Buys her a ton of stuff for no reason
- Wants to get a loving tat of something related to her.
- Tells her how much of an starfish I am, even tho I never talk to him and he cant possible know me
- Peeks at my best friends phone about a very private conversation she was having with my s/o, and than asks my s/o about it

Now some day my s/o was hanging out at his place, which im fine with and she told me. The only reason she was there was because he has a metric forget ton of cats and she loves cats. a lot. Now apparently he groped her there. And she has a history and trauma of getting loveually harrassed and Brandon knows that. And now hes threatening and manipulating both my s/o and my best friend with Self Delete if they ever block him. I high-key want to send him a text/message about it and that he should stay the forget away from her but I dont want to be that kind of starfish. I also want to tell my girlfriend to stay the forget away from him (which shes going to anyway) and to cut all contact immediatly. If he kills himself than thats his personal problem but I dont want to take away her freedom and she will probably think his death is on her. I want to call the cops on his ass but "that will ruin his future" and if the parents of my s/o ever found out they would beat her and throw her out (theyre extremely conservative)

What the forget do I do

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[Conan]

unironically get a restraining order if he doesnt stop being a stalker dude

but besides that, a quick google search brought up this article
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fighting-fear/201403/if-you-leave-me-ill-kill-myself

tl;dr draw out the "breakup" so that he stops caring so much. ex stop seeing him, talk to him less and less over text or whatever, eventually not at all.

[HULKHOGANWWFWORLDCHAMPION]

Jesus forget your life is hard, what Conan has suggested seems like the only options you have really. Unless you want to be the ultimate chad and beat the stuff out of him

[espio100]

Jesus forget your life is hard, what Conan has suggested seems like the only options you have really. Unless you want to be the ultimate chad and beat the stuff out of him

Lol hes like 3 times my weight, If he sits on my ill die. and I dont want to get in trouble with the law.
She doesnt want a restraining order because than her parents will find put or something.

[Electrk..]

get her to file a police report, get a restraining order, and tell him to stay the forget away from her

I high-key want to send him a text/message about it and that he should stay the forget away from her but I dont want to be that kind of starfish

"I dont want to be that kind of starfish" he molested your loving girlfriend dude

[espio100]

get her to file a police report, get a restraining order, and tell him to stay the forget away from her

"I dont want to be that kind of starfish" he molested your loving girlfriend dude

I want to call the cops on his ass but "that will ruin his future" and if the parents of my s/o ever found out they would beat her and throw her out (theyre extremely conservative)

I asked her a few times about the other time she got harrassed but she refused and eventually got angry at me because I kept asking. I doubt she will do it but me and my best friend are trying to convince her.

[Conan]

staying in contact with people who negatively impact you is only going to get worse over time. dont pressure her too much about what happened before (it may not be out of defense of her "friend" but rather wanting to forget about it), but make sure she's actually taking steps towards reducing contact

[Superfun909]

goodness, you're having a hard time lately. hang in there, espio

[HULKHOGANWWFWORLDCHAMPION]

Lol hes like 3 times my weight, If he sits on my ill die.

encourage him to lose a bunch of weight then beat the stuff out of him

[Deus Ex]

If she doesn't block him out of her life completely and it bothers you just move on man. You aren't an starfish for looking out for her or yourself. She should get a restraining order and tell this guy to forget right on off with his suicidal bullstuff. If she can't or won't, then what happens next is gonna go something like this:

He'll keep emotionally manipulating her with threats of Self Delete until something else happens. And then something else. And it won't stop. Because, as much as I hate to say it, she won't go the extra mile required to keep this animal away from her. forget her parents too. forget em all fam, brothers gotta stay safe out here.

[HULKHOGANWWFWORLDCHAMPION]

If she doesn't block him out of her life completely and it bothers you just move on man. You aren't an starfish for looking out for her or yourself. She should get a restraining order and tell this guy to forget right on off with his suicidal bullstuff. If she can't or won't, then what happens next is gonna go something like this:

He'll keep emotionally manipulating her with threats of Self Delete until something else happens. And then something else. And it won't stop. Because, as much as I hate to say it, she won't go the extra mile required to keep this animal away from her. forget her parents too. forget em all fam, brothers gotta stay safe out here.

I mean this is a really negative way of looking at things imo but I guess its a really negative situation, this could happen but I'd figure she's probably smart enough to stop his stuff as soon as he starts his cycle again.

[Conan]

deus isnt wrong - someone whos willing to threaten Self Delete if someone leaves is someone whos subconsciously or consciously willing to emotionally manipulate people or play off their guilty feelings. sure, all of us are guilty of emotional manipulation in some form at some point, but threatening Self Delete and being a creep is definitely past the bounds of normal behavior

[Renousim]

I've dealt with the Self Delete threats before. The incel will never do it, he doesn't have the loving guts. Self Delete threatening is 100% just emotional manipulation and sadly it works most of the time. Honestly it'd be loving hilarious if you called his bluff and just told him to off himself.

[HULKHOGANWWFWORLDCHAMPION]

I've dealt with the Self Delete threats before. The incel will never do it, he doesn't have the loving guts. Self Delete threatening is 100% just emotional manipulation and sadly it works most of the time. Honestly it'd be loving hilarious if you called his bluff and just told him to off himself.

yeah but his girl doesn't know that it's a pure bluff and idk if she'll be convinced otherwise

[Conan]

I've dealt with the Self Delete threats before. The incel will never do it, he doesn't have the loving guts. Self Delete threatening is 100% just emotional manipulation and sadly it works most of the time. Honestly it'd be loving hilarious if you called his bluff and just told him to off himself.

ah yes, make his gf feel even more guilty if he does go do it

its a threat, and sure its emotional manipulation, but it actually happens sometimes. don't be an insensitive prick - this guy's a creep, but he doesn't deserve to die because of it.