If you don't think AoE is an RTS, you're stupid.
Regardless, Total War has always struck me as more of a real time tactics game, rather than a strategy game. The strategy portion seems like an after-thought.
Controlling thousands of units on a battlefield, that's tactics. Objectively speaking. Read a dictionary sometime.
There's no strategy there, is what I'm saying.
I don't think you understand what they mean by "real time". They mean it's not turn-based, basically. They don't mean to say, "THIS GAME IS SERIOUSLY REAL". Age of Empires is, objectively speaking, more of an RTS than any total war game. It has more strategy, less tactics, and is in real-time more of the time.
I.e, you're wrong in every regard.