Okay so over a month ago I met this girl in my drafting class named Chelsea. She told me one day that she liked an avatar of Captain Kirk and Bones that I was using on the class Edmodo site (facebook but for educational school use). From this I found out she was a big Star Trek fan like I was, and we became good friends. She introduced me to Doctor Who and I love the show now. Then she started Emailing me, then we started Skyping and she told me lots of things about her life and I mutually shared own life story. Then we started texting, and something just totally changed. She became very trusting of me and open, and one day she pretty much just burst into tears, telling me all the sad things in her life... the things she'd done, the friends she had lost, and how lonely and tired and sad she was. And then she said how I changed all of that, how I was special to her, even saying I was a blessing from God. She told me how strong of a christian she was, and how I was different from her other 'friends' who were mostly godless and didn't relate to her very well. She made it extremely obvious that she had a crush on me and we would always tell each other good night and good morning when we woke up.
Then the last two weeks have been very rough. She barely ever texted me anymore which came off to me as a huge surprise. When she did respond to me, she was almost always acting like she had something better to do and as if her life was so more important than everyone else's. She was angry and irritable and cold and uncaring, and put herself above everyone else seemingly. She says she's always busy and indeed she is. She is in the school band, is driving, does all the house chores, caring for her arthritic mother, working for a dance studio, writing stuff for the school newspaper, tutoring elementary school students in music, and directing a middle school band. She wakes up at 5 AM in the morning to do all this stuff. And yet she is always complaining to me about how lonely she is and how she has no social life and hardly any friends and how her boyfriend dumped her and how her best friend broke the best friend code and yada yada yada. So I advised her that maybe she should cut back on one or two of her activities to make some free time so she could go hang out and make some friends.Then suddenly she lashes out at me, saying stuff like "this is my life and don't you dare try to change it" and "I only live to follow the lord". I try to apologize but she still acts like she's the center of the universe.
Then one day during one of our fights, I finally tell her that I love her and apologized. She suddenly acts like she has no interest in me at all and friendzones me, which was the polar opposite of how she was acting prior. She'd always say how "I complete her" and I make her "Feel lonely no more" and whatnot. Then now she just goes "oh, you're just a friend." :|
But the thing that really bugs me the most is the religious stuff. She's oftentimes making tons of bible references in our conversations and going "Jesus christ is lord and I follow him" which is perfectly fine for me as a fellow Christian. But she hates Baptist churches and wants to be Catholic which has been driving me insane, since her only cited reason was "Baptist churches drive politics" and other garbage like that. She also apparently prays for over an hour each day, saying "It takes me an hour to pray for one specific thing". What? I just want to put on an 'are you serious' face because it makes no sense. It takes just two minutes to pray. The bible'd probably say that an hour is a waste of time. Even though she is a strong christian, she doesn't go to church, yet i've offered to take her and her answer's been "oh I have to take care of the house" or some other baloney. It really seems to only be because my church is a Baptist church. Pffffft.
But honestly she scares me sometimes. She tells me how at her dance studio, she and the other dancers will have fellowship and that suddenly "God invites us into worship" and to which I wasn't understanding so I ask. She replies with that she can't describe it but that "Once you are in it, you never want to leave". I have this mental image of her and the other dancers praying then falling over into a hallucinating state, as if they are really high, and it scares me half to death. She also tells me how she "gets these visions" when she is praying and it creeps me out. She says she thinks its 'visions from god' and that she says they're "Something I know is not human." Honestly it really creeps me out.
So yeah, basically there is this girl in my school who has mood swings and acted as if she had a crush on me, then she friendzones me and goes back and forth between how i'm a control freak and then how she needs me, and she does some rather scary religious stuff, all while pushing her friends away with a busy life of work yet always complaining about how she is so lonely and friendless.
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