To be fair wanting to bang someone you don't really know yet is still under the category of 'whore' even if one instance isn't enough to really label a person, but the same thing applies to a demiloveual or whatever you want to call it. Basically my point is, there's no reason for the term to exist.
Abstinence can be chosen even if loveual attraction is present for many reasons. A person may
very much want to have love, but refrains because of, for example, their religious beliefs say that pre-marital love is bad. For a demiloveual, without an emotional bond, there is no desire, or even attraction.
Imagine you see a girl (I'm assuming you're straight, I didn't see any post from you saying otherwise) with every quality that you find attractive. She's pretty much perfect in your eyes. You would probably feel at least some amount of attraction. A demiloveual would not unless there's an emotional/romantic bond