There are a few theories:
1. Aliens civilizations eventually destroy themselves (nukes, pollution, etc)
2. The universe is billions of years old, so there would be millions, possibly billions of years in technology gap.
a. They would have already contacted us.
b. We're not that interesting...(insects are to us as we are to them)
3. Complex life is rarer than we think.
4. Light speed is the true cosmic speed limit, no technology can surpass it, and the universe is too vast to travel across.