Author Topic: I'm grounded to "prevent myself from getting bad grades" (Read 11713 times)

Trogtor · August 19, 2013, 01:39:58 AM

Btw rar i loved that post you made last page. Btw travis, unless i can make it (socially) instead of break it,( which under my circumstances, greatly chance of breaking,) i think i'd get myself a girl but thats a whole 'nother story. Btw those chances ain't gonna happen. Dont even get me started, its a mess.

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$trinick · August 19, 2013, 01:41:47 AM

If I hadn't already established myself as an aggressive person in this thread I'd have a whole load of advice to give you, but you'd more than likely reject it based on the false conclusion you've drawn that I'm an starfish.

RaR · August 19, 2013, 01:45:54 AM

Quote from: $trinick on August 19, 2013, 01:38:23 AM

Right is a subjective term. I don't think they're right. IMO taking away someones computer access because they did poorly in school is a wrong thing to do.

it's not as much as all access to computer as it is restricting his access to time wasters such as video games and other distracting material.

The parents know better than both of us. OP could very well be addicted to computer games and skips his homework and studying for computer games, in which case it would be completely logical to restrict access.

Quote from: $trinick on August 19, 2013, 01:38:23 AM

They might think it's right, and since they probably do, they think it's the best thing for him. I disagree, though. I think having a balanced life is essential to happiness, and having the things you enjoy cut out of your life so you're forced to focus on what you don't enjoy isn't only wrong but unhealthy.

At the same time I think what they've done is given Trogtor some rope to have the balanced life and so far he's not actually doing that. It's completely possible to play video games and have good grades, and so far I'm assuming Trogtor has abused the rope that's been thrown to him.

If he takes this opportunity to spend time studying and doing homework instead of playing video games, his grades will improve greatly. Obviously fun is an important factor in someones life, and I'm sure he will be granted access if he actually takes this restriction into advantage.

He forgeted up, and now he has to be rehabilitated so he can be trusted to live the balanced life you believe in. He should see this as an opportunity to improve, not a deprivation of fun.

Deve111² · August 19, 2013, 01:47:03 AM

trinick marry me

Benjamin Lopez · August 19, 2013, 01:48:23 AM

Quote from: $trinick on August 19, 2013, 01:38:23 AM

Right is a subjective term. I don't think they're right. IMO taking away someones computer access because they did poorly in school is a wrong thing to do. They might think it's right, and since they probably do, they think it's the best thing for him. I disagree, though. I think having a balanced life is essential to happiness, and having the things you enjoy cut out of your life so you're forced to focus on what you don't enjoy isn't only wrong but unhealthy.

I get my computer taken away when I get an F, do I bitch about it, nope. I understand the reason I got it taken away and fix it so I can get it back. That's all it is too it and many parents do this to make sure their kid does good in school. You're about the only one here who thinks it's wrong. Thing is, it's not right or wrong, it's the parents decision and you have no right to tell them how to raise their child. After all it's not your life and it shouldn't matter to you.

Crispy_ · August 19, 2013, 01:49:02 AM

Quote from: $trinick on August 19, 2013, 01:41:47 AM

If I hadn't already established myself as an aggressive person in this thread I'd have a whole load of advice to give you, but you'd more than likely reject it based on the false conclusion you've drawn that I'm an starfish.

oh no, guy's he is now a victim! :(((((((((

Harm94 · August 19, 2013, 01:53:55 AM

Quote from: RaR on August 19, 2013, 01:33:06 AM

Yeah and being offended doesn't make you right either. Obviously OP shouldn't just take whatever stuff gets thrown at him but he shouldn't blow off his parents when all they want in life is the best for him.

It's not even about might. Sure, parents have the authority and therefore the might, but they are legitimately right in this scenario.

I'm on neither side, but geeze you both need to calm down. You have to hammer the rules down hard at an early age and get less strict as they get older. I know a lot of parents who spoil their kids and then as they got older they had more rules put on them and they became rebellious.

If you look at prisons, the inmates get free college education, they can visit a chaplain, they got a lot of stuff. When they get out most of them go back to doing the crimes that send them back to prison. They are the way they are is because they were bad parents, in fact most murders were abused as kids. Thieves are the result of parents who spoil their kids. Anyway in prison they have all the opportunity to fix themselves, but they don't take it because they lacked proper guidance at an early age. If you want someone to change it is going to have to come from within as part of their own decision. Trying to force people to change might work some of the time, but most people are stubborn. You are the way you are either because your parents are like that or you were influenced life was like. It's one of those nature and nurture things. Knowing that you went to military school I'm sure you someone either showed you the way or you chose to change yourself.

If the op doesn't want to be grounded he is going to have to realize himself that he has to work hard to prevent his grades from dropping and build a good trust relationship with his parents.

.:FancyPants:. · August 19, 2013, 01:58:38 AM

i have parents that do the exact same thing except i got a 4.0 both semesters freshman year and they've restricted it more.
don't know what to tell you, it's pretty stupid.

$trinick · August 19, 2013, 02:00:40 AM

Quote from: RaR on August 19, 2013, 01:45:54 AM

it's not as much as all access to computer as it is restricting his access to time wasters such as video games and other distracting material.

The parents know better than both of us. OP could very well be addicted to computer games and skips his homework and studying for computer games, in which case it would be completely logical to restrict access.
At the same time I think what they've done is given Trogtor some rope to have the balanced life and so far he's not actually doing that. It's completely possible to play video games and have good grades, and so far I'm assuming Trogtor has abused the rope that's been thrown to him.

If he takes this opportunity to spend time studying and doing homework instead of playing video games, his grades will improve greatly. Obviously fun is an important factor in someones life, and I'm sure he will be granted access if he actually takes this restriction into advantage.

He forgeted up, and now he has to be rehabilitated so he can be trusted to live the balanced life you believe in. He should see this as an opportunity to improve, not a deprivation of fun.

I still don't agree that taking away his computer is the right thing to do. Obviously he thinks this is wrong, meaning there's a fundamental flaw in the plan. You're assuming that once he regains access to his computer he won't go back to doing what he was doing before. If you're right, and he is addicted to video games, the second he gets his computer back he's going to pop open a video game and start playing it. Maybe out of fear that he'll lose his computer again he'll keep up on his schoolwork, but still indulge in computer use as often as possible. When his parents aren't around to see him not doing his homework, he'll only play computer games and when he goes to college he'll flunk out because his parents can't take away his computer there. His parents need to show him that a balanced life is the way to succeed, and they need to teach him how to balance his life. Teach via construction, not destruction.

Quote from: Crispy_ on August 19, 2013, 01:49:02 AM

oh no, guy's he is now a victim! :(((((((((

I'm not playing victim.. I'm just saying that I would be a nicer person if the situation was different. Obviously I did this to myself.

Deve111² · August 19, 2013, 02:03:20 AM

;-; Trinick!

$trinick · August 19, 2013, 02:04:12 AM

Quote from: Deve111² on August 19, 2013, 02:03:20 AM

;-; Trinick!

Sorry, I'm saving myself for Bubbagum !

Deve111² · August 19, 2013, 02:08:30 AM

Quote from: $trinick on August 19, 2013, 02:04:12 AM

Sorry, I'm saving myself for Bubbagum !

srry i alredy took her

Harm94 · August 19, 2013, 02:08:30 AM

Quote from: $trinick on August 19, 2013, 02:04:12 AM

Sorry, I'm saving myself for Bubbagum !

wat

Trogtor · August 19, 2013, 02:09:03 AM

Quote from: Harm94 on August 19, 2013, 02:08:30 AM

wat

all my wat.

Oasis · August 19, 2013, 02:11:03 AM

Quote from: $trinick on August 19, 2013, 02:00:40 AM

I still don't agree that taking away his computer is the right thing to do. Obviously he thinks this is wrong, meaning there's a fundamental flaw in the plan. You're assuming that once he regains access to his computer he won't go back to doing what he was doing before. If you're right, and he is addicted to video games, the second he gets his computer back he's going to pop open a video game and start playing it. Maybe out of fear that he'll lose his computer again he'll keep up on his schoolwork, but still indulge in computer use as often as possible. When his parents aren't around to see him not doing his homework, he'll only play computer games and when he goes to college he'll flunk out because his parents can't take away his computer there. His parents need to show him that a balanced life is the way to succeed, and they need to teach him how to balance his life. Teach via construction, not destruction.
I'm not playing victim.. I'm just saying that I would be a nicer person if the situation was different. Obviously I did this to myself.

They're not destructing anything?

If you can no longer handle a privilege, you deserve to have it taken away until it is deemed that you can handle it again. His parents are doing the exact right thing in terms of punishment for "bad" behavior. Yet the second part would be to make sure he understands what is going on, which obviously has not been done.