in that case, tell her she's not a woman. tell her she's hiding a snake in her pants. and don't say "I think" or "in my opinion," no, you have to do what XR did, tell her exactly "you're not actually female"
She'd probably be a little confused but your brown townogy is once again irrelevant and outlandish. As a matter of fact stop trying to make brown townogies for it because none of them really make sense. This is a unique scenario and people from different backgrounds have different contextual knowledge about homoloveuality based on their upbringing. They aren't in control of these circumstances, it does not make them pond scum.
It is your job as an advocate of this movement to educate them and to show them how to love. Not how to hate. You're being a pretty good example of how to hate someone.
like I said approximately 1000 times I don't disagree with him. you can't disagree with something unless it's a matter of opinion
It's a matter of belief. A perception of fact. If you think he's wrong, support your point with evidence and not insults.
but I don't need to show any patience. he's heard all of it before. how do I know?? because he said he's saying it "again." so what's the point in repeating it to him
Because you're not being patient with him. You're right, you don't have to try, but you should at-least reserve a little bit of decency and not lash out at him.