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[Kimon²]

that's kinda like the "if you dont want to date a person of another race, you're tribal" debate. im not entirely sure on my opinion on it.

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[ultimamax]

idk it depends. i think if you say you wouldn't date any trans person, pre-op, post-op, or one who doesn't want an operation, or one who doesn't present as their gender identity, taking HRT or not, then you're sensible. but on a case to case basis you can evaluate whether you'd be comfortable dating them. e.g you might not want an SO who's planning on changing lovees because you're not bi, but if they are trans and don't plan on changing lovees then what's the harm

that's kinda like the "if you dont want to date a person of another race, you're tribal" debate. im not entirely sure on my opinion on it.

different races have different features, it goes beyond skin color. not finding those things attractive is a possibility.
that being said there are outliers in every race who might not have those features. so to say "i would never date an <x> person" is kind of excluding many people for no reason. besides you might just spontaneously find someone of that race attractive, you can never know

[sir dooble]

Yeah, I have to agree with ulimamax on the race issue there.

I personally would probably not date a black person, because in the large majority of cases, I don't find any black women attractive. But the reason isn't the skin colour, which I think can be lovey, but rather it's the facial features that are common among black people. I'm not attracted to the larger lips and flatter, often wider noses that are common. These same features can also be found in white people, but less frequently, and I wouldn't be attracted to them there either.

That's not to say that I might never find a black woman who I'm wowed by her beauty and in love with her character.
But as the record currently goes, I've not met a black woman I've been attracted to.


So, as it goes I wouldn't want to date a person of another race (or at least a black person) because I've never been attracted to them. What would be the point in dating someone you weren't attracted to.

[Yosher]

Yeah, I have to agree with ulimamax on the race issue there.

I personally would probably not date a black person, because in the large majority of cases, I don't find any black women attractive. But the reason isn't the skin colour, which I think can be lovey, but rather it's the facial features that are common among black people. I'm not attracted to the larger lips and flatter, often wider noses that are common. These same features can also be found in white people, but less frequently, and I wouldn't be attracted to them there either.

That's not to say that I might never find a black woman who I'm wowed by her beauty and in love with her character.
But as the record currently goes, I've not met a black woman I've been attracted to.


So, as it goes I wouldn't want to date a person of another race (or at least a black person) because I've never been attracted to them. What would be the point in dating someone you weren't attracted to.

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[hodototman]

I would not date a trans person for an actual reason.
Trans-women do not appeal to me, since I have no interest in dating someone who has a snake
Trans-men do not appeal to me, since I don't want to date a girl who constantly wants me to refer to them as male

[Deus Ex]

I don't mind being around a transgender person, but I wouldn't date one. Is that sensible? Because if it is, that's too damn bad.

[Yosher]

and last but not least, most trans women i've seen look really man-like and straight males are not loveually attracted to straight males

[Aces]

So nobody answered if it was tribal or sensible yet.

You can give excuses or reasoning but what is your verdict.

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I say nay

[Yosher]

not tribal, not sensible. just preferences

[ultimamax]

i think saying you would date no one of a particular race of no trans people of any physicality or gender identity is misguided. blanket exclusions are dumb.

saying "i'm not attracted to them" or "i would prefer to date someone of x gender identity/x physicality" is a statement of preferences though.

[Kearn]

im not going to have any romantic relationships with people with Y chromosomes thaaaaaanks

[sir dooble]

So nobody answered if it was tribal or sensible yet.

You can give excuses or reasoning but what is your verdict.

It's not inherently.
But you can also be tribal or sensible at the same time.

In the same way that a straight man doesn't want to date a gay man. Not because they hate gay people, but because they aren't attracted to men.
But you can also have a straight man who doesn't want to date a gay man particularly because they hate gay people.

So it's not inherently homophobic to be a straight man who doesn't want to date another man, nor is it inherently tribal to be a black man who doesn't want to date a white woman, nor is it inherently sensible to be 'cisgendered' and not want to date a tranloveual person.

[Jaxx]

It's not inherently.
But you can also be tribal or sensible at the same time.

In the same way that a straight man doesn't want to date a gay man. Not because they hate gay people, but because they aren't attracted to men.
But you can also have a straight man who doesn't want to date a gay man particularly because they hate gay people.

So it's not inherently homophobic to be a straight man who doesn't want to date another man, nor is it inherently tribal to be a black man who doesn't want to date a white woman, nor is it inherently sensible to be 'cisgendered' and not want to date a tranloveual person.

they key is just not being a richard about it
like, i would never want a snake near my snake. but that's not being a richard to gay men, it's just not being gay.