but why is it suddenly unconstitutional after hundreds of years for a state to use its tenth amendment powers to define marriage between a man and a woman if it so desires? what changed?
The government is far from perfect, people apply their own views to what is constitutional or not
What changed is less people crying "muh religion" and more people advocating equality. We're at a point now where the majority of Americans are in approval of same love marriage
in regards to the spousal benefits, that's an issue that could be resolved with civil unions
You're creating an inferior version for no reason, telling people "oh, you can't have that, that's not for you"
It also just screams "separate but equal" an ideology that has been proven to not work, being previously used and overturned with black rights