So are you saying that obi-wan telling luke his father is dead because vader killed him, means he was resurrected and is total bullstuff?
No. It would be bs if we saw Obi Wan force push the limbless Anakin/Vader into the lava and burst into flames instead of just leaving him for dead, and then its revealed that Vader is Luke's father. There Obi Wan just lied, or bent the truth at least.
No, we don't see the pilot die, and it's not too far fetched to think that he could have ejected same as the other guy, but we see the tie fighter on fire, sink into the ground, and explode. We're clearly meant to believe he's dead. Perhaps it would be different if he were an A list character, but it seemed like they brought him back for no reason except to add a brief moment of joy that he's not dead and so that he can save the day a couple times by being the best pilot in the resistance.
It probably is just a personal preference and I don't appreciate the dramatic irony, wrought from my being jaded by Arrow and watching too much cinema sins, that when you kill a character they should actually be dead, or at least that there should be something more than "we didn't see the body" to go off of in believing otherwise. Whatever, I'll accept that nobody is particularly irked by it and move along.
However, blending that with the cavalry coming at just the right moment is a bridge too far for me. That specific pilot being the one to save the day, and then go on to save the day later that afternoon, doesn't sit well. It's like if we saw Han in a full body cast prior to him coming with the falcon to shoot Vader's ship and stop him from shooting Luke down so he could destroy the Death Star and then afterward he says that the cast was a prank or something, it just doesn't sit well with me. And again, maybe it's just me, but I don't like it and I'm going to drop it now.