No more apology threads. Seriously.

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because he's been gone for years


This is ironic because as it states in op,
Aology threads are absolutely disgusting, and we really don't care about your apology.

Yes, we don't care about the apology. We care about the apology threads. We care about the fact that they are filling up the drama section with needless apologies.

I don't care how many sorries are written on the apology thread, it's the existence that makes it annoying. There's no irony at all.

also stop taking path seriously. he's a troll.
I'm not a troll for forgets sake. I'm expressing my opinion and several people agree that apology threads are useless unless they are genuine. So far there's only been one completely genuine apology thread out of the 5 or 7 that have been written in the past two months.

Yes, we don't care about the apology. We care about the apology threads. We care about the fact that they are filling up the drama section with needless apologies.

I don't care how many sorries are written on the apology thread, it's the existence that makes it annoying. There's no irony at all.
sorry to butt in but is that considered dismissive

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sorry to butt in but is that considered dismissive

No it isn't.  If I wanted a word filter I would add one.  The context and meaning of the post is what is important, not the exact words.

Badspot

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If you have problem with these apologies thread, get out or just ignore them, nobody cares about your cryings.

Drama is for interpersonal problems.

People keep reporting this as dismissive, and it is, but here's the thing: OP is saying that he doesn't like [thing], so everyone should stop doing [thing] for the sake of OP.  It's very similar to all the complaints that [TV show] fandom is cringe worthy and should be deleted, or [video game] fanfiction server should be banned, or everyone who likes [thing 2] should have to post in the megathread only like a concentration camp.

Sometimes the appropriate response is to ignore the thing you don't like. 

I feel like having a personal grudge with people who create insincere apology threads is perfectly valid. I don't see how the best course of action would be to ignore them, so I decide to express my feelings in the form of a drama.

To be hosest I don't view this thread as a criticism as much as I view it as a warning or correction. I mainly want to notify people that the creation of an apology thread is pointless unless you show us the change in motion. Sure apologies are the first step, but words don't mean much. I was hoping that the next people who feel remorse for the server that they hacked a couple years ago could take a step back and make a difference first, and then approach the drama section and explain how they're sorry. Even once you're at that point an apology won't be necessary since people will know and see that you have changed.

Either way wouldn't a dismissive post still be a dismissive post, regardless of the context?

Also when I look back to the OP I do kinda realize how blunt my approach was. I would've revised it if I could go back and make it seem less harsh.

Sometimes the appropriate response is to ignore the thing you don't like. 
this principle applies equally well to what filipe said

Well, 5 years ago, one certain fellow was in such a situation.

The forums seems to still be so split-opinionated on these threads. I got people in that thread who complimented me on such apology and accepted it, others whom simply took the piss. And now, 5 years later, the same goes on.

The point I'm trying to prove here is that you cannot simply stomp out apologies when they've been going on on this forum for years and years. Hell, maybe it is a little déjà vu, but maybe apology threads are just a soldiered part of BLF. They will probably always go on, and as Badspot said, it's possible the only solution is to ignore them.