i think that, ideally, trans individuals would be able to live life as closely as possible to their preferred gender, and that's the standard that i imagine most people are going by. in any case, all we're talking about right now is the bathroom issue, which we seem to fundamentally agree on aside from maybe policy implementations. i just prefer federal protections here because i'm not confident in the ability/desire of states to adequately protect LGBT students, but i would agree that federal requirements for unilove/neutral bathrooms would be burdensome on states if that were an issue
trans issues are at a weird crossroads of LGBT and feminist issues, and i think that might be why things get confusing sometimes