Wow.
I sort of just lurk drama when I need to lose hope in humanity and kill time, but this thread made me sad enough to post.
Maybe i was in the wrong at one point, but I don't currently think that, and in order to change my mind, you're going to have to make a convincing argument instead of just telling me 'you're wrong' and insisting that i change my mind.
Okay, here we go:
Argument 1: Servers have rules.
Argument 2: Admins have rules.
Argument 3: Admins enforce rules.
So in theory, an individual server's admins could enforce a personal rule that is not explicitly stated on the server. Server rules usually act as a sort of "don't do this or you'll be banned" due to players doing such things. If a server doesn't have a "rules" add-on, it is up to the player to use common sense and avoid saying or doing anything that could be considered "annoying", "offensive", or "destructive". If you do not know what the limits are per admins on the server, it is up to you to ask them. A good admin will be happy to tell you how they run the server.
If you break a rule you didn't know existed, you should not be punished by administration - they should give you a warning, and you should stop yourself from breaking that rule in the future. If you continue to break said rule, then administration has every reason to remove you from their server, as you are now a problem.
Here's a scenario:You join a server. The server rules are "Don't spam, don't insult other players, have fun!". You start talking with the players on the server, and swear at some point in your conversation. An admin on the server says "Don't swear". You ask "why not?". The admin replies "I don't like it when people swear on my server."
Now you have a few options. The first option is A) obey the admin's wishes and
just don't swear, or B) disobey the admin's wishes and swear.
You choose the first option, you play on the server, have fun, make friends or enemies, and leave. Plain and simple.
You choose the second option, you get banned from the server.
While you may not find the words you said offensive, the admin does not want that language on their server. If they make it explicitly clear
anywhere, and make it a point to you specifically that they don't like those words, then it is entirely your fault when they take action when you break their rules.
Just like how rules vary from server to server, people will vary with their breaking points in reaction to specific words, insults, and actions. For the most part all of these things can be grouped up.
TL;DR: use common sense.