[Blogland] Relationship status: Official [The end?]

[Foxscotch]

how tf is XR not the loyal one, did you even read? Lololol

disloyal isn't the right word, but someone who fools around with someone they know to be in an exclusive relationship is no better than the person in the exclusive relationship

he wasnt fine - he nudged her to push for a definitive course of action + resolution, but understandably left it up to her to figure out and gave her time to do so. its never good to shame someone into ending a relationship; they have to realize it won't work in the long run for them or else there will always be some feelings of doubt/urge to reconcile the gap created.

no, he is fine with it. not only that, but he was complicit in it. you can say "I'm not comfortable with that, but let me know when you're not in that relationship anymore". you do not HAVE to be the person someone uses to cheat. knowingly being that person is a conscious decision

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[Insert Name Here²]

I like how some of you guys nevet loving read what XR posts. If you actually  did, you'd realise that the only reason why the girl hasn't broken up with the guy yet to is because she literally wont have anywhere to live. So she's staying with him only until she has some other place to live.

If you were in a bad relationship and you had no where to live if you broke up with the guy, I'm sure you'd stay in the relationship until you had somewhere else to live too

[SlayerZ99]

I like how some of you guys nevet loving read what XR posts. If you actually  did, you'd realise that the only reason why the girl hasn't broken up with the guy yet to is because she literally wont have anywhere to live. So she's staying with him only until she has some other place to live.

If you were in a bad relationship and you had no where to live if you broke up with the guy, I'm sure you'd stay in the relationship until you had somewhere else to live too

Ah yes so she's just blatantly using the boyfriend and playing him while she cheats on him with XR and XR is actively engaging with someone who is in a relationship but is also being stuffty by using their boyfriend just for a place to stay

You really cleared things up thanks INH

[Insert Name Here²]

My dude would you rather the girl be loving homeless by breaking up with the guy? She literally has no other place to live, it's either she stays with the guy only to have a place to stay, or she breaks up with him and ends up being homeless for a few weeks to months +

[SlayerZ99]

My dude would you rather the girl be loving homeless by breaking up with the guy? She literally has no other place to live, it's either she stays with the guy only to have a place to stay, or she breaks up with him and ends up being homeless for a few weeks to months +

Okay so maybe she shouldn't be messing around and cheating on her boyfriend with XR even if she doesn't care for her current boyfriend and is just using him for a place to stay

[XR-7]

I like how some of you guys nevet loving read what XR posts. If you actually  did, you'd realise that the only reason why the girl hasn't broken up with the guy yet to is because she literally wont have anywhere to live. So she's staying with him only until she has some other place to live.

If you were in a bad relationship and you had no where to live if you broke up with the guy, I'm sure you'd stay in the relationship until you had somewhere else to live too

While this is true, they do have a point.

[Akio-]

the guy is housing her and she's still using him and cheating. i don't see how that isn't stuffty

[Steve5451²]

so the girl hitting on you is hoe but not the cheating girl because she's cheating with you.

I like how some of you guys nevet loving read what XR posts. If you actually  did, you'd realise that the only reason why the girl hasn't broken up with the guy yet to is because she literally wont have anywhere to live. So she's staying with him only until she has some other place to live.

If you were in a bad relationship and you had no where to live if you broke up with the guy, I'm sure you'd stay in the relationship until you had somewhere else to live too

so she's not only cheating on him, she's using him as well.

[Foxscotch]

I like how some of you guys nevet loving read what XR posts. If you actually  did, you'd realise that the only reason why the girl hasn't broken up with the guy yet to is because she literally wont have anywhere to live. So she's staying with him only until she has some other place to live.

this doesn't explain, in any way, why XR chooses to fool around with her? how does him trying to get in her pants help her housing situation?

[hillkill]

if she consistently cheats on her boyfriend with you, what makes you think she won't do the same if you get together?

[Conan]

there's no need to stomp on XR-7 for participating in a morally ambiguous relationship. there's no (technically) right or wrong way to approach this - if XR-7 did things differently it could possibly have not led him down the path that is now connecting them. there's also no point in taking the moral high ground. nearly all relationships have some morally ambiguous part and if you get fixated on that you won't ever be able to enjoy a relationship.

context is everything. stop dismissing her from being someone worth going for simply because she broke up with someone else in the process. we can't really know their relationship/friendship well enough to judge its "quality" through XR-7's posts.

[Steve5451²]

there's no need to stomp on XR-7 for participating in a morally ambiguous relationship. there's no (technically) right or wrong way to approach this - if XR-7 did things differently it could possibly have not led him down the path that is now connecting them. there's also no point in taking the moral high ground. nearly all relationships have some morally ambiguous part and if you get fixated on that you won't ever be able to enjoy a relationship.

context is everything. stop dismissing her from being someone worth going for simply because she broke up with someone else in the process. we can't really know their relationship/friendship well enough to judge its "quality" through XR-7's posts.

You haven't read any of his posts, have you?

[SlayerZ99]

there's no need to stomp on XR-7 for participating in a morally ambiguous relationship. there's no (technically) right or wrong way to approach this - if XR-7 did things differently it could possibly have not led him down the path that is now connecting them. there's also no point in taking the moral high ground. nearly all relationships have some morally ambiguous part and if you get fixated on that you won't ever be able to enjoy a relationship.

context is everything. stop dismissing her from being someone worth going for simply because she broke up with someone else in the process. we can't really know their relationship/friendship well enough to judge its "quality" through XR-7's posts.

Well he's clearly opening himself up for criticism by sharing the entire relationship. Not that sharing should warrant criticism but in this case he's telling us some deep and weird as hell stuff that is fairly personal. I don't believe she's a terrible person but shes caught up in something fairly stuffty, BUT you cannot dismiss that fact that the things XR has told us is throwing up some huge red flags. I'm also assuming this is his first "serious" relationship with someone and it's easy to get caught up in the initial emotions and feelings that you have for someone but its also important to understand when you may have crossed the line and may be entering into a potentially damaging relationship. I won't say that XR or the girl is a bad person but like I said before, in my opinion and my point of view from what XR has said, this whole situation/relationship is toxic, bad, and weird as hell.

[Foxscotch]

there's no need to stomp on XR-7 for participating in a morally ambiguous relationship. there's no (technically) right or wrong way to approach this - if XR-7 did things differently it could possibly have not led him down the path that is now connecting them. there's also no point in taking the moral high ground. nearly all relationships have some morally ambiguous part and if you get fixated on that you won't ever be able to enjoy a relationship.

there isn't much ambiguity. he is willingly participating in the act of cheating on a significant other. I'd say her "usage" of the (now-ex?) bf is ambiguous. but not XR's actions
your last sentence is also ridiculously questionable

context is everything. stop dismissing her from being someone worth going for simply because she broke up with someone else in the process. we can't really know their relationship/friendship well enough to judge its "quality" through XR-7's posts.

I'm not dismissing her, or calling their relationship low-quality
what I'm saying is that he's being a bit of a richard. if he were in the other guy's position, I can't imagine he (or anyone else on this forum) would think it was right. you must also remember that we're hearing all of this through a filter: the filter of the guy who really wants to be with this girl, and probably cares about how other people perceive him

[Conan]

You haven't read any of his posts, have you?

ive been following the thread pretty closely. im not sure who you're referring to, but if you mean XR-7, ive read every one of them at least twice.

i guess i'm just really optimistic/positive/willing to give the benefit of the doubt when talking about relationships. i see you guys' points though.