you know you're a handicap when spanking is not included in your definition of physical abuse
its not because its not
where and which parts because i tend to leave out stuff that i dont feel is worth arguing over/isn't what i was arguing about in the first place
the part where i said with spanking comes verbal explanation so children know why they are being spanked. if they cant understand that then how would they understand verbal punishment in the first place? theres no 'or else' to just verbal punishment. children are visual learners.
yeah if you do other stuff wrong in the first place. kids aren't automatically prone to misbehaving. they're either taught that acting out (crying, throwing tantrums) will get them what they want, or that doing something wrong is the only way to get what they want
not sure which way your leaning on the argument with this.
children will unknowingly push to the edge. they will see how far they can reach to get to what they want. when they are stopped by something that they do not like, like spanking for instance, that tells them not to cross that line. verbal punishment solely relies on your kids being accustomed to morals, which they are not. this basically means that verbal punishment is a line that wont stop them from crossing. im not saying verbal punishment is ineffective, i'm saying its not the permanent alternative. spanking isnt either. they need to be used together. i completely agree that spanking your kids without helping them understand why is not the way to go at all.
