smokers weren't born with the urge to smoke. that only came about because they got addicted. Are you really this dense?
neither are people born with the urge to be attracted to a certain gender. that only came about because of their upbringing.
scientists have searched tirelessly for decades to find the supposed "gay gene" and have not found it. they've found potential pointers, but nothing concrete.
case in point, I had classmates in my high school who were identical twin brothers. same DNA, same genes. one of them was completely straight, the other was flamboyantly gay.
He's also not saying that homoloveuality is choice. He's saying that the loveual act is a choice. People who are born straight can make the choice of whether or not they want to make love to partner and so forth.
Correct me if I'm wrong, Planr.
well i am saying that people choose what they want to be attracted to. if they didn't, there would be no reason for, say for example, advertising companies to make their product alluring in commercials. they want to produce in people the desire to buy their product. simply telling them to buy the product doesn't work. people can choose not to be attracted to the product by reading negative reviews about it, or simply not watching TV so they dont see the advertisement in the future.
i'll admit that a person's upbringing (where they largely can't control what they're exposed to) largely influences how they behave and act later on. for example, people with loveual special interestes often developed that special interest due to things they witnessed, heard about, or were involved in growing up. case in point, many homoloveual men have a childhood history of loveual abuse by other men.
is there any real reason for them to "change"
religious reasons are obviously the primary reason. and yes, that is a real reason.
It is impossible to remove the desires or feelings.
it is though. there are documented cases of gay men who have successfully changed their loveual attractions to be attracted to women.
castrated men also have much less desire to have love with others, because of lack of testosterone (assuming they aren't taking testosterone treatment).
Addiction is on a whole other realm and is completely different from loveuality.
love addiction is a real thing.