yes so obviously dont even bother. right.
not even memeing here, you sound like someone's done what you're describing to you. maybe it's how you're coping, but consider that your experience is not representative of everyone else's. it might not be.
yes, you can bother with ldrs if you want. all i'm saying is that they aren't sustainable beyond a month or two tops, and , compared to a personal and intimate relationship that takes place in real life rather than over dms, is the least favorable option
its like saying 'are one night stands relationships?' obviously they aren't but if you want to get into semantics, there's definitely a bond/relationship that exists for like 30-40 minutes as you're loving. ldrs are a very long one night stand where you dont actually have love and it will continue for as long as you can entertain yourself by typing messages every day. eventually, one of the two parties gets bored of communicating, not having love, not socializing with the other party irl, or not having any income. from there it's either stop the ldr or take a massive leap in commitment and visit them irl, which is already a crapshoot that costs a lot of money.
sure if you commit hard enough and eventually you move in with them or they move in with you, it can become an actual relationship, but if that doesn't happen it's just a severely short game that needs to end eventually. in that case, i'm entirely correct to say it's not sustainable
