can you guys point me toward a nonwhitelist PVP, preferably vanilla server
chaos.nerd.nuChaos server. Pure chaos. Trees on fire, everybody is a threat. This is the server where you are ALLOWED to get as much TNT as you can, loot a house, then blow it up.
s.nerd.nuSurvival server. Most survival servers aren't really survival-ish, but this one maintains the creativeness of the people and the fun of killing stuff.
c.nerd.nuPure creativeness. Friendly people, and tons of cool stuff people have made.