I have far more respect for someone who approached a member of the opposite (or same) love, got rejected, then moved on than someone who either got rejected and became dejected or didn't try at all. All of my friends feel the same way and I'm sure most everyone else does too. This idea that you have to live up to the standards of every peer who judges you or makes fun of you is absolutely foolish. My friends make fun of me all the time, and vice versa, but none of us get sad or mad because we know that how we feel is right to us; and that's all that matters. Do what feels right to you, not what you think looks good to others.
I know I sound like a cheesy teen drama but I've had to learn this on my own over time. I was heavily sheltered by religion growing up. I wasn't allowed to go anywhere or do anything that didn't involve the church, which made me not want to do anything at all. I was home schooled until I was 16 and neither of my parents ever taught me anything about being social, nor would they the times I asked. All I knew was the barrier of butterfly kisses and hugs that my mother had built around me, obscuring my view of the outside world and misleading all of my early ideas of who people were. I started from square one, all by myself, learning how to interact with other people. If it weren't for, oddly enough, one of my sister's ex boyfriends, I wouldn't be as functional as I am right now. When I hit my teens- after my dad died- I went to him with all the questions I was comfortable enough to ask. We've been friends for 10 years now.
This is way too long for a stupid FB status style cookie cutter post about teenage insecurity, so I'm going to end it here. Just thought I'd share with you guys something that I had to learn the hard way, and how important it is just to ask others for help when you need it. There's always going to be someone willing to help, it all comes down to how willing you are to actually listen.
