what is wrong with that
Socicity is doomed.
I'm having trouble understand, what it is your group of people does not understand about this very simple concept.
Things are how they are, not how you want them to be.
If someone gets a love change, then they've paid for the priviledge of being that gender/love. That's undestandable.
But you can't just wake up one day and decide it's the day you're going to come out as a new gender/love. Just becuase you changed your mind that doesn't mean anything about you changed with it.