brutal honesty

[$trinick]

Concealing information is not a bad practice.

What a loving sweeping statement.

Anyway, I have trouble being brutally honest. I really just can't bring myself to do it. Like, for the Christmas present thing, so what you don't like the jacket? Just don't wear it, not really a big deal. I have video games for the PS2 that I got as gifts that I haven't opened to this day because I'm uninterested in playing them. But someone who gave that gift actually put effort into picking out something they'd think I'd like, and hurting their feelings when they tried to do something nice for me is just too evil for me.

So maybe I should rephrase, I have trouble being brutally honest when someone did something for me. If someone made me a stuffty dinner, gave me a stuffty gift, or whatever, I'll smile and say thanks. But if someone says something stupid, or just flat out sucks at something, I've got no problem telling them they suck.

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[ResonKinetic]

What a loving sweeping statement.

Anyway, I have trouble being brutally honest. I really just can't bring myself to do it. Like, for the Christmas present thing, so what you don't like the jacket? Just don't wear it, not really a big deal. I have video games for the PS2 that I got as gifts that I haven't opened to this day because I'm uninterested in playing them. But someone who gave that gift actually put effort into picking out something they'd think I'd like, and hurting their feelings when they tried to do something nice for me is just too evil for me.

So maybe I should rephrase, I have trouble being brutally honest when someone did something for me. If someone made me a stuffty dinner, gave me a stuffty gift, or whatever, I'll smile and say thanks. But if someone says something stupid, or just flat out sucks at something, I've got no problem telling them they suck.

That's called being a nice person.

[$trinick]

That's called being a nice person.

Did you just call me a nice person?

[Planr]

I can't help but be brutally honest, because I have Aspergers Syndrome

[ResonKinetic]

Did you just call me a nice person?

Unless you were lying about what you said, you've been acting like a nice person IRL.

From your description, at least. I haven't the slightest clue what you do.

[Acerblock]

Just say thank you and it's great in front of the person who gave or made you something, that's all you need to do.

[XR-7]

Lol
Kids grow up learning that "honesty is the best policy" and "lying is bad/a sin"
They're taught that they should be honest and not lie to their parents or others
Yet when someone is honest about something and they don't try to soften the blow its considered "rude" or "insensitive".

"This food isn't really good.."
"You don't like that food? Well there are starving kids in Africa so why don't you be a little more appreciative?"
"You don't like that jacket? Well there are kids who don't even have clothes to keep them warm

Good response: Hey mom, take this. Give it to World Vision.

[Tokthree]

I can't help but be brutally honest, because I have Aspergers Syndrome

I have Aspergers syndrome and I am more than capable of being honest without sounding like a richard. It's no excuse

[psychomutt]

depends on the steak and how it was cooked.

[Yosher]

I have Aspergers syndrome and I am more than capable of being honest without sounding like a richard. It's no excuse

This.

[Tom Gunn]

I also have Ozburgers

[hodot]

ask them if it hurts when you say stuff like that or apologize. i used to be like this and that worked like a charm.

my grandma got me a shirt that says "joe cool" on it.

joe cool.

[sir dooble]

It's possible to be honest and be nice.

You don't have to outright say what you think. The food might be disgusting, or the jacket hideous.
You don't have to say that to their face in a rude way.
You could say "I wasn't all that keen on this meal" or "I think I'd prefer a different Jacket".

Then follow it up with "But thank you anyway, it means a lot".

Tell them you would prefer something else, but then thank them for trying anyway.
People don't normally (particularly parents) want to give you things that you dislike, even if it's difficult to give. What people don't like however is when it seems like you have no care or consideration for the effort or thought put into making/buying you something. Show that you care. Be sincere.

Honest is the best policy, but remember that people also have feelings and no one wants theirs hurt.

[Muslim]

'Thank you' is all you need to say. You don't have to tell them if you like it or not.

[Alyx Vance]

Sounds like you're just a brat who expects everything to be perfect.